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My ex thinks £25 is enough to support my son for two weeks
Hi, I had a baby on October 4th 2013, me and his dad split up on Saturday 12th October. He has returned back to his moms house and I am living as a single parent struggling 2 raise my son. my sons dad thinks £25 in 2weeks is enough to support my son and buy his clothes nappies and milk, knowing I now have to pay for the house n bills myself.
He does not work but gets benefits, he get £108.00 per week for disability allowance, and £142.00 per fortnight for employment and support allowance. That roughly works out at £716.00 per month! Hope you can help me with this issue as I don’t feel my son should miss out.
Kind regards Tanya Brown
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Well why have kids if you cant afford them?? You only got yourself to blame why dont you get a job you tramp
be grateful he is psying anything theres plenty of men who dont pay for there kids also if you went to csa you would only get a fiver a week as he is on benefits x
If you’re not happy with the money your ex is freely paying you, go to the CSA. Then you’ll have something to complain about. He’s paying you more than he should. But, as is often the case, the mother feels a sense of entitlement she deserves more. This country is a joke.
This situation is really sad 🙁 but unfortunately if u make a CSA claim, he would on be liable to pay £5 for u to help feed/clothe/keep a roof over ur sons head. I think ur best seeking advise for help in housing benefit etc. the citizens advise beuro should be able to point u in the right direction. Hope u get things sorted for u and if son
If your (now) ex is claiming benefits (not working) you will be awarded £5 per week from the CSA, but in reality, Expect to receive absolutely nothing, because the CSA will fail in their duty to deduct the money from his benefits to deliberately create arrears on his account. The idea of creating these arrears is so that the CSA can have a hold on your ex for many Years to come, but it will be YOU who suffers initially, maybe for a period of 6 Months (is not unusual), Therefore I would suggest accepting what is now offered and keep it as a private arrangement
No need for the nasty comments. As people have said £25 every fortnight from some one on benefits is a win for you. The CSA are soul destroying scum. Congratulations on the birth of your child and I hope things get easier for you
If the child is just yours then surely you should not expect anything from anyone else !
You need to be careful here. If your ex is out of work, then as others have said, going through the CSA will get you a £5 a week. I would assume that you would be getting milk tokens, and if you are renting you would be getting housing benefits etc, and from experience, new-borns do not require huge amounts of money to be spent on them. Whatever your reasons for splitting with your ex, hopefully he will want to play a part in your childs life, and hopefully you will encourage that. Be reasonable with your requests for money. The CSA are a nasty organisation who do not have the best interests of the children as part of there policy. They only exist to suck the life out of decent NRP’s and destroy already fragile relationships between ex’s.
Unfortunately because your ex is on benefits he only has to pay you £5 per week flat rate, so what your getting is above what he has to pay, be grateful your getting the amount you do, he could quite easily involve CSA and you would get that and not a penny more, he is supporting his child why are you complaining???
As he’s on benefits flat rate if £5 would apply as DLA- isn’t taken into account.
And you lot where dies it say she doesn’t work??? And they both chose to have the child not just her… Bitter or what
But if cant afford u don’t have children stop I am fed up u benifit scrounging pigs bet ur on benifits Amanda
Seriously your ex takes home more than me and I work for a living what the fuck is wrong with this country. OK rant over. the above is correct. on benefits the CSA will assess him at #5 per week if he is paying 25 then accept it and hope he doesnt use the CSA calculator or have a change of heart. Your son will only lose out if you 2 start fighting over money. he may have his faults but at least he is trying to do the right thing. paying 5 x more than he is obliged to speaks volumes and every little helps. raising kids should never be about money.
you don’t mention the reason you split, did you kick him out? was he a bad parent, a loser, a waster ??
or did you just get bored of him?
I only ask because you have not given the full story, and as usual when the full story is not told you may get negative comments that then gives out the wrong messages that some people on this site use as an opportunity to slate you.
if he was an asshole then I wish you luck with making him pay a fair amount that does not involve the vermin csa.
if you just got bored and now want nothing from him apart from his money? then I say good luck to him and stay away as its obvious you are just using him to top up your income. if a mother dumps a caring father that’s been supporting his kids then in my books shes on her own. remember HE didn’t choose to walk away, you did, so you make your bed and lie in it.
if neither of you are to blame and it is as it is so to speak? then try and come to some kind of mutual arrangement. As others have said, at the moment you are better off with £25 a fortnight without the scum csa, if you go to them he will only pay you a tenner a fortnight, AND he will never work again if he could because they will screw his ass when he does.
good luck
gonk
If they are on benefits then they only pay a disgusting £5 a week. Not to sure as to why people think that is enough each week but hey ho that is what they have to pay. My ex hasnt paid anything since end of august as he tried saying I made a fraudulent claim. Finally now getting money.