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@CSAHell Maybe go get a job, if the chap wanted the child he would have provided, no he wouldt be made to sell it, scrounging cow get a grip
So, your ex lives a good life and you think he should be forced to sell his house to give you the money? If he lives ‘a good life’ and he’s self-employed, does he live a good life because he works for it? Isn’t he allowed to live in his house if he works for himself? Do you think you’re entitled to his house as well as his son?
I am in the same situation as you, have been for 14 years……. and left it at that. If he doesn’t want to provide for his own flesh and blood, then you know all too well what kind of creature that makes him. You simply can’t change a heartless person…..
Pure greed, by no means should someone sell their house to provide for someone else. They have a new life to lead and should not be robbed of everything. Why let it bother you , if he is willing to support his child its a bonus, if not you learn to manage. I have been on both sides, the csa robbing us of excessive amounts of money to support one child and it has a massive effect on the nrp present family. Also have an absent dad that sometimes gives money and sometimes not. When it happens it just means the children get something extra.
My god this woman sounds greedy. Why is it ok for a woman to chose to have the child or not (abortion) but if I bloke doesn’t want to be the part of a child’s life from birth he is classed as a monster talk about double standards.
you cant force a NRP to participate in kids lives sadly. Yet the PWC can force the kids to side with them against the NRP. Figure that one out. I am sorry you had no financial support from your ex, but there are some who ‘get away with it’ from the csa. MORE PROOF that the whole system is a failure and letting the people down that are most in need.
PWC’s mostly use the NRP as an ATM…..I am sorry but that is mostly true. If only they just got a grip and stopped seeing the kids as a way of getting cash out of whatever system they could, chail tax, working tax, csa money from NRP. Be independant, and go get your own money. If the csa manage to get any £ from the NRP then it’s a bonus for you.
Long before the csa single parents managed!! What about widowed PWC’s?? They don’t get any extra £. I am afraid I got nothing from my ex and I am a PWC, he avoided payments etc etc. So what did I do…I got on with it and supported myself and my kids, I did jobs around school hours etc…this was WITHOUT tax credits, it was years before all of that and I managed!!
To be fair should you not thought of speaking to this guy 15 years ago? No the CSA wont force him to sell his house and you shouldt expect him to, thats disgraceful, Does your child see his father? If not leave the poor guy alone, Why should he work hard for you to take it all off him, get a job yourself and earn what he has
ok, so it’s a shame the NRP doesnt pay or see his son…but i didn’t get any £ from my ex, and this was BEFORE tax credits!! Guess what I did…instead of stressing over what my ex was or wasn’t earning or doing…FOR THE SAKE OF MY KIDS AND MY SELF RESPECT…I went out got a job around school hours, supported myself, didn’t slate the NRP by telling the kids how awful he was not paying etc…I let them make their own minds up, safe in the knowledge I got on with it and supported them myself….I am their Mum, it’s my job ffs!! And I knew what I signed up for when I had them.
Why should the NRP have to sell his house?? Are you selling yours and gining the £ to your son?? Its the same!!
their are such things as condoms….. and “she raped me, that’s how she got herself pregnant” says no man ever…….
Yeah fair enough if a woman has been raped then ok she has the rights to have an abortion but if it was a one night stand then she should have to live with the responsibility just like the man
responsibility for the welfare of a child is and must always be shared by both parents, equally. Sadly, this doesn’t often happen after break ups…….
Bullies, and biased thats what this site now is – so maybe dont bother, just join the facebook groups child support agencies failings.
No one hates greedy PWCs who abuse the system to get more money and back at her ex, more than me but the CSA has let this author down!!!!
I’m sorry but I genuinely believe that two parents should pay for their kids (especially if they can afford it) and I don’t blame this Lindsey for being p’d off!! It’s people like her ex who caused the whole CSA to be needed because he DOES NOT PAY A PENNY towards his child!! Because of her ex’s attitude about not paying for his kid, decent hard working NRPs are getting harassed and threatened with all sorts because the CSA need to meet government targets!!
I don’t believe either party should EVER have to sell their house but the CSA are yet again to blame for this!!
I agree…odd I know..but agree with Melinda on this…go get a job and have some self respect and dignity..he obviously wants nothing to do with his kid so shows what kinda man he is..that said,maybe he has wind of how the csa treat nrp’s and how biased they are normally in favour of the pwc. I say get on with your life and to your..stay well away…cause if the csa get you..your life is ruined.
Gonk
how greedy your sound – maybe he left because you are crazy – controlling and manipulative; he has a good life because he had moved on so should u – rather than be stalking him and check out his assets. I’d bet that he has nothing to do with your kid as you are one of these : pay and you’ll see him/her – and if he decided that for the sake of a child it’s not worth a fight as for the child – it’s better to have a piece of normal life than 2 split life full of hate – people like u are abusing system that doesn’t work shame
Absolutely true, Melinda, and shared responsibility brings about the best outcomes for children, which is what we parents all desire. Sadly, the experience of most men is that after separation they end up with none of the parenting responsibility and all the financial responsibility. Not unnaturally, that leads to the kind of resentment and rage expressed on these pages.
As for the OP; who knows? There’s far too little information given about her situation to even begin to hypothesis an equitable solution.
– Is the house not the child’s future potential ‘inheritance’??
Dave
That is a great comment I have said this in the past but you have to remember when the PWC cash cow comes to an end they can’t cope have no long term plan and are normally pissed of there ex managed to get on in life without them 🙂
y the hell should he be made homless foe u u money grabbing mare……get off yr arse n provide if he dow wanna no get on with it…….his circumstances are nothing to do with u…….u are not entitled to his house……if csa hav done assessment u may not like it but if they say he hasnt got to pay…..accept it n move on theres a reason theyve said no……..he cant afford it………..just anorher muny grabbing svrounger jelous coz hes moved on…….. disgustin