My ex seems to think this is all some big joke
I’ve been separated from the father of my so children for four years. He’s always been on the dole, never trying to look for work etc. he has paid for one pair of shoes for each child that whole time. They stay one night a week with him and I’m still sending pjs, clothes ect to his house that I’ve paid for.
He met a new girl, had a baby and left her, now he’s with another girl who already had a son and they have just had a baby and now he has finally got the kick up to bum to work. He’s been in work since June picking up nearly £400 a week and he’s bought our kids nothing. If he would of bought the something or took the on a day out here and there I wouldn’t of contacted to csa but he’s vie them nothing.
He thinks being a dad is giving your kids nuggets chips and beams for tea once a week then buying them sweets from pound land. He should of go a job and provided for our kids before he went on to have more. No W the csa have been in touch, of corse he was on the phone moaning to them ( even though he avoided all the csa’s contact attempts)
The letter says our kids will get £46 a week, but know they have to recalculate because he’s declared a second child in the house. Why dosnt he want to provided for his babies? He thinks a big joke a he will get away with it, he’s a very short tempered person and I. Just wondering where it will go from here. He’s trying to make me feel guilty because he will be short for bills ect but if he would of made some kind of effort it would of come to this!!! Why am I being made out to be the baddy in all of this? He’s offerd nothing, he’s their dad!! What’s wrong with him?!
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more to being a dad then MONEY member that to he their for his kids he see them they know who he is . the only thing CSA has done put in to people heads being a part a child life is that u must pay get real best thing in life are FREE .
The most important thing is he has contact.
i think ppl want to have a good luck here ? us single mothers are struggling pfft for u to say at least he has contact pop into the real world please bet he can afffford the pub tabs etc i use to do the same with my son it neva has changed however my ex pays me now for hiis son 🙂
A mother gets child tax and child benifit what does the dad get nothing
I can see the annoyance. BUT some single mums use the situation refuse fathers contact but still want money
And some single parents do without so their children get what they meed
You’re doing the right thing.
This is a case of someone ‘growing up’ and facing their responsibilities. Unfortunately, he respects his current situation as his responsibility and maybe you’re right, he isn’t taking his previous relationships and children from those into account. But the CSA will. Your children, unfortunately, may suffer from his deeds after your relationship; unfortunately that cannot be helped.
My advice to you is simple, stay strong and do what’s right for your children. Remember, your concern is with their welfare and that is all you should be concerned about. You have nothing to be guilty for.
I agree here but iv always managed when my ex had no job he has always paid when he works
Stop moaning, hes moved on and maybe you can try get a job too! Your too reliant on the state. Going to the CSA is the worst thing you can do.
Terry