My ex moved abroad, why should I pay now she’s back?
April 26, 2013
I used to pay maintenance for my child until the mother moved abroad with the child and it stopped. She has now returned and has applied for maintenance again. Is it the same old case of your a man so you have no rights when a child is involved? Even though the mother has managed to live in another country for approx 5 years with me not having any contact with them or needing to support them.
Now she is back i have to start paying again even though it means i may lose my house which i bought a couple of years ago because i don’t think i can manage to pay the amount of maintenance required of me as well as my other commitments. Or was i expected to live my life waiting for the possibility that she might return again. i know i have no right to my child other than to pay for it but if the mother has proved she doesn’t need my funds how can she suddenly be able to turn my life upside down!
Mark
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You have no rights whatsoever as far as the CSA SCUM are concerned, you are just a cash cow to be milked bone dry and then sent to the knackers yard
I’m sorry to burst your bubble guys but they do exactly the same to us ladies and I am in exactly the same position as the gentleman who wrote this post. I’m facing bankruptcy and losing my job which I struggle to hold down as it is due to being disabled but I cannot just sit around and not work. These people are PURE EVIL and have driven me to despair, depression and who knows …… You’re not alone.
I am not taking sides here but regardless of where your child lives, you, as parent have a duty to support your child…… now that your ex is back, perhaps it is wise to file with family court for a contact order……
Not when your child is used as a weapon against you, no way,.not fair. 50/50 all the way. No contact no money. Yeah I’ve had 5 contact orders and my ex has broken every one. I’ve spent about 7 grand, she’s paid nothing. Family court is as one sided as the csa.
Joel Pasley, your attitude of “no contact – no money” is worrying to say the least. You are penalising your child in this manner…. penalising a child for his/her parent’s action; and i would go further with your statement: what if people took on the attitude of “no money – no contact”?…… it just doesn’t work am afraid….. I do however agree with you that family court fails families, big time and both ways, believe me. Best wishes.
@ Melinda – I completely agree with Joel…. PWCs have used children as weapons for years…. NRPs and the children have absolutely no say on the matter!!!!!
if the PWC thought more of the childs emotional needs rather than the money the CSA have told them they are entitled to we wouldn’t have these situations!
@ Melinda Bas
As usual you talk bollocks.. the mother didn’t seem to worry about duty when she fucked off abroad Melinda? did she not have a duty to advise her ex that he still needs to support his kid despite her not being in the country…she don’t inspire me as really being too bothered then…but now shes back expects to start using the kid to top up her income again….Anyone with half a brain reading this post can see shes just using this guy like thousands of other pwc’s and not just male.take off those rose coloured specs and see this scum for for they really are…they have no interest in the kids at….this woman has probably come back to uk and started scrounching from the state and been told you cant have it unless you start screwing the ex again with full support of the vile csa
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