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Get a job
Now you know what it feels like to be a NRP. and stop whinging and start paying
What gos around comes around
I really do find this funny. But its was ok for you to try and get money out of him to the point he had to give his job up. And I no how that feels I’m thinking of it as I can just about pay my bills. With no money what so ever left over why she uses csa payments to fund a new car. Yet thay have have a good income she’s marryed… And I’m skint…. Pay and get on with it or give your job up. Like we all do.
My daughter lives with her dad and I pay him faithfully every month, although I don’t see her often, but I provide for her. It’s a choice you make when you have kids and split up. I don’t be grudge him it as I know she is well looked after. I work and I certainly wouldn’t give my job up “I’d go nuts”.
He obviously gave up his job to avoid paying his share for the child so why are u picking on the poor woman? It’s a bit unfair him dodging having to pay but it’s ok for her, I don’t blame her for being a bit narked about it . Everything should be equal but he obviously didn’t see it that way when he was expected to help out but now he wants help he should get it ?
When you put a claim into the csa when your daughter was living with you were there any arrears? My understanding is, if he’s now put in a claim against you, it might off set the payments you have to pay.
Write a letter to the csa and see what they come back with.
He might be putting in a claim for spite because now your an nrp you’ll see just how csa will treat you differently when wanting money off of you.
Good luck.
the reason he gave up his job was so he wouldn’t have to pay any more if you make a child and walk away you should be made to pay if you don’t want the resposonability keep it in your pants
this lady should refuse to pay csa payments she has looked after the child on her own for 15 yrs where was he when she was struggling
only a man would make such a stupid comment
This is why the CSA is not fit for purpose. It is completely unfair and common sense should dictate she shouldn’t pay when she received nothing herself for years.
No Nicola, not ‘only a man’ could make such a comment. Both men and women are capable of making stupid comments, but Duncan is particularly good at stupid comments.
with running costs at over 420 million a year we are wasting all this public money , leave it to the parents and lawyers to sort out any monies……save our taxpayers…..
Any person worth their salts,man or woman, who has a child that does not live with them would pay towards their childs maintenance. It shouldnt matter how much or how little each parent has. They each have an equal share in producing the child so should have an equal share in providing for it, fairs fair!
You know what they say, live by the sword … you die by the sword
Mind boggling, what an *r*s&0l3. Hope you can keep the moral high ground for another four years and it will be over. Daughters can be difficult at that age. She may be back before you know it 😉
Got a job Duncan Smith earn a very nice wage thank you for the advice anyway. My daughter has realised which side her bread is buttered on and returned home not long after that post!! However while at her dads she was provided with everything she needed by me all clothing, footwear, toiletries, bus and dinner money. Money for outings with her friends. I made sure that my daughter was provided for and that he never got a penny of my hard earned cash!! When the claim was made by myself I was a mature student in university and was unable to make ends meet. However I have done it now without his help I now earn a very good wage while that excuse of a man claims benefits!! Goodluck to him and his 4 other children he has had since we separated hope all their mums are not expecting anything from him!!