Lying ex is making my life harder

July 4, 2015

I have just started a new job 3 months ago. I am on a basic salary of £20k however the commission I receive means that I earn far more. I have had two very good months however the comm’s is not guaranteed, as with every sales job. My payment to my ex, who is claiming every benefit under the sun and has told Child Tax Credits that she is living on the sofa at her mums house just so that she gets more money from our government.

She is actually living with her boyfriend in his council flat and he earns good money, as does she and is still getting benefits. My payment has gone up to almost £400 per month. Upon speaking to the CSA who are as helpful as a chocolate teapot and seem to only care about the women (lets try having the shoe on the other foot) they said that that is the way it is and call back in April when the case will be reviewed again. Irrespective of the fact that I too am trying to start a new life and yes when the money is good, I have no problem at all paying it but when I have a bad couple of weeks, I can barely make ends meet. I DO NOT KNOW what to do and its really having an impact on my new relationship. Any suggestions would be more than welcome.