Left in poverty due to CSA

13 thoughts on “Left in poverty due to CSA”

1. you are not alone sir.. been there.. still there….looking for a way out!.

2. good to know Karl. Surely this can’t be right? Just found out it will take me 15 yrs to pay the arrears they conjured up and the more I earn, the more they will take.
   why can’t the resident parents income contribute to the calculation? I even stayed at home for 5 years as a stay at home Dad even after we split up. I didn’t get any maintenance. I’m made to feel like a dead beat dad when I’ve done so much for my child. *rage*

3. I’m sad to say ‘Welcome aboard Mark’.
   You are far from being alone.

4. Re: ” left in poverty due to the CSA”

   I feel for this guy,the f******ing CSA scum don’t give a shit about your plight for sure,I read soooo many similar stories like yours where the bitch mothers who use the CSA as just another means for free money,they are not concerned about the child it’s intended to be used for.I am not saying it’s all woman but a damm lot of them just exploit this shit,unfair,unjust system called the CSA…..the filth that work there are just that,none of them give a toss,you could be out on the street for all they care so long as they stealing your money from made up arrears etc.
   And the mothers that have 4 x4 cars and 2 hols a yrs are just as bad,they don’t need the money,they don’t spend it on the kid or kids,her wealthy new partner gives her all she needs,the CSA money they get pays for their new manicures and new shoes every month…Makes me want to vomit…..I’d burn down every CSA building in the country with all the idiots that work in them if I was insane and stupid enough to do it.it’s about time Cameron did something about the useless system that just robs honest fathers of an income and destroys life’s ……..some fathers are good,I am such a father who always looked after and brought home the money for his wife and child AND her child from a previous relationship who’s no good father NEVER gave me a penny to help bring her up. The mother left me and only after 9 months married.I never walked away from my responsibilities…… I was told I was wanted anymore. SO DONT YOU CAMERON….DARE TAR US AS ” WoRSE THAN DRINK DRIVERS” asshole !!!!!! …call me angry and bitter YES….because we are made to feel like criminals because of a shit system that robs from honest hard working fathers to make up it’s targets because they can’t be bothered to track down the assholes that don’t care and don’t pay for the kids they bring into this world.
   The bitch I married never let’s me see my child,I don’t even know where she lives,and the bitch files a claim with these pack animals,now I’m forced to pay £320 a month from my earnings…..I’m dreading the future now…..will these bastards dream up an arrears for me next yr when I am assessed again?
   As this poor guys says…about feeling suicidal ? Is it going to take this kind of thing to happen before the useless corrupt system called the CSA is shut down for good and replaced by a fair system for ALL

5. Terry, I couldn’t agree more. I was raging listening to a feature on radio 5 live about clamping down further on non resident parents. Someone has to lobby, something must be done. If you hear of any petitions or pressure groups, let me know. All I know is, I love my child but I can’t spend the next 15 years living on close to job seekers allowance money. I was in hospital with my child recently (a regular thing) with me ex partner. The nurse were commenting on how nice her shoes were and they were very expensive looking. I was sat there in trainers which are half falling apart. There’s something wrong there!!!

6. Mark,

   I hope Kathryn who wrote ‘Ex has properties all over the country and I get peanuts’ reads your story, then she will know what hardship is.

   All her complaints is about wanting more money from your ex while he is enjoying his new life with his new wife.

   Stay strong

7. thank you lyn. I’m thinking about using my skills as a video director to make some kind of documentary about all this.

8. It is not all men who are plaqued by the CSA, my son has just turned 16 and has decided to go and live with his dad, needless to say I was upset but it is his choice. Over 8yrs ago my ex applied for an extra night I stated in court that it was for money, he laughed at me…a month to the day later he gained my daughters child benefit and suggested that if ever i claimed csa against he would do the same- I never did. I have never recieved any money in the whole time we have been divorced nor have i pursued it. I have just had a telephone call from the csa to state he is going to claim for both our children though my daughter resides with me and has contact with her dad. As he recieves her child benefit he is entitled too, they have told me I will have to pay 69 pounds a week, this will spiral me into debt more as I had to increase my mortgage to pay him half the property, …I am already living into my overdraft. I to feel suicidal!!! what can I do?
   So you see it is not just fathers… this man recieves all benefits and drives around in a mobility car for ASTHMA!!!

9. You will notice the whole time I have referred to resident and non resident parents as I am not making this a gender issue.
   I have asthma but I don’t get mobility allowance nor would I want it. In fact I play rugby 3 times a week so asthma is manageable. Anyway, I digress. He sounds like a bit of a benefit cheat. I would get him investigated, maybe.
   You are entitled to counter claim for all the years he wasn’t paying, he will probably owe you thousands. Why does he get the child benefit? seems strange.

   I think that this highlights the flaws in the system perfectly and yes you can enter the system and try and make it work for you. My only issue would be that the system as a whole is a huge steaming mess and somehow, the people suffering at the hands of it i.e. you, me and the thousands of other people need to do something to draw attention to this. How can both parents be claiming child support?
   There are gleaming hole in the system and it’s aimed at targeting the non resident parents and ‘dead beats’ according to Mr Cameron but the innocent are getting dragged in to this and it’s a disgrace.

   I feel for you, I really do as I’m going through the same, the question is. What are we going to do about it?

10. wow i am in a desperate situation i am a mother whos 17 year old lives with dad and left school but has now returned to full time education. and i asked him to let me just have the chance to get my life together due to situations out of my control i moved away from the family home and lost the children i a court case. im not a bad person just a very sad one who missed so many days with out my children and the more i missed them the sader i got, only to find i was now to pay csa for my punshiment. working a full time and part time job i managed to pay off some then had to give up my car and was made bankrup . unable to cope i stoped paying so i could pay my bills now csa has taken a court injuction on my wage and has left me with 870 this month and i am on my own with nothing left i live very tight everymonth anyway but now my rent is 650.00 and council tax and water and electric now gone on the 1st i have nothing to live on for the month and i already sold everything worth anything. i am so sad and depressed and tottaly defeated that my only options after talking to csa who preach to me about the law is to kill my self and that s what i am going to do . i cant afford my own life its not worth anything , i m going to have to give away my animals as i cant afford them so whats the point…

11. VANESSA
    I know how you feel and have had dark thoughts. I know what you are going through and I feel the same pain about this. We just want to get our lives back on track don’t we? We are asking how and why it is possible to legally be forced to live like this aren’t we?
    I would very much like to speak to you. I may have an opportunity to bring this issue up and get the public to see what it is like. I need accounts and statements from people like you.
    If you want to get in touch I’m sure we can arrange to exchange emails. I and everyone else who is going through this needs you alive as we need to stand together to fight it. Get back to me plz

12. I think its about time none resident parents stood up and were counted!

13. Join us on fb, lots of guys nrps, nrpps, and pwcs going through the same shit caused bt the csa….we are against csa corruption x