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Just what are my rights?
About 4 months ago i found out i have a son of 9 years old, i took on the responsibility of and start paying £100 per month for his up keep as well as food, clothes, school trips etc which she was happy to take.
Just recently my employer is cutting our hours so i informed his mother that i can only pay £60 which now is not acceptable to her and that she wants me to cancel the standing order and is saying she going to the csa.
I am wondering what are my rights exactly and what protocol do the have to adhere to?? Also she is claiming benefits should she declare the money i have been paying??
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I know what you mean mate. I was paying my ex and everything was fine until she found out that i had a new girlfriend which got her jealous and she rang CSA on me which now are on my case for £261 a month which i can’t afford because of rent/food and getting to work and theres nothing i can do about it because they don’t care about how we live. While my ex sits at home on benefits that she has been on since the day she left college and never worked a day in her life. I know i have to pay for my child but the £261 they are asking from me is just too much and now i am in a struggle to live. Wish CSA would listen to the fathers and take money which we we can afford, least us dads are trying when there are dads who don’t pay at all -_-
I know what you mean mate. I was paying my ex and everything was fine until she found out that i had a new girlfriend which got her jealous and she rang CSA on me which now are on my case for £261 a month which i can’t afford because of rent/food and getting to work and theres nothing i can do about it because they don’t care about how we live. While my ex sits at home on benefits that she has been on since the day she left college and never worked a day in her life. I know i have to pay for my child but the £261 they are asking from me is just too much and now i am in a struggle to live. Wish CSA would listen to the fathers and take money which we we can afford, least us dads are trying when there are dads who don’t pay at all -_-
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Are you on birth certificate
Don’t know if you are talking to me or the Article, but no i am not
Csa are not counted as income for tax credits!! She is well within her rights to make a claim to the csa however they may tell her to continue with the bank payments as its easier xx
Ask for DNA
Can I be frank….are you even sure the child is yours? If csa get involved, on a new case you will have to mediate a figure that suits you both. Might be worth giving child maintenance options a ring for some advice.
No i am not on the birth certificate.
If your not on the birth certificate then ask the csa to do a dna before they request any thing from you x
I think she has now decided to go through cms.. Surely i have to fill an income and expenditure before they calculate what i am going to pay.
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Make sure you get dna testing first, dude.
It will be worth it.
Don’t take her word for it.
Your “rights”??
I don’t think anyone really knows.
You have to talk to a family lawyer.
(look one up) most are free.
They can tell you what to do.
If they give you bad advice,
then MY advice is
1: be 100 percent the boy is yours.
2: try to get to know the boy (if he IS yours)
3: If he’s yours, try to convince him to live with YOU.
If he LIVES with you:
1: file for child support on HER @ss.
If he says “No”
1 Try to convince him to talk his mother out of it.
2 Bribe him. Give HIM money DIRECTLY
if he can convince her to NOT order the child support.
3 Pay the boy.
If he’s NOT yours and they STILL try to get money
out of you:
Get a lawyer.
They cannot just “say” you’re the father if you’re not
on the Birth certificate.
If you ARE on the certificate, then get DNA proof
to refute the charges.
Get on the ball, dude. Time is money.