“It’s the law” is their answer to everything

I have a son from a previous relationship who i have always played a major role in his life following the seperation of his mother and myself, ( she ended the relationship) we were at the time living in a part own part rent accomadation which we purchased following my getting a lump sum inheritance from the death of my grandparent, i removed myself from the property but continued to pay the morgage and rent for the property, we later agreed that i would agree to sign the property over to my ex partner for security of my child a son Ross but my ex then decided she didnt want to take over payments in fact the property ended up getting repossed as she had made non of the agreed payments on the property of rent or morgage, it was impossible for me to recover it as the debt had got so high i hasten to add i had always paid towards my sons everyday keep, and provided clothing etc i had to return to my parents home as employment ceased in the area but i still maintained contact with my son and arranged regular visits and i had weekend contact and school holidays.

I gained employment in winchester my parents home town and got a new partner we went on to have two children together but my son remained a large part of our family and i continued regular access even though i had to involve a solicitor as his mother tried to stop me from seeing him, i never stopped paying towards his keep not even when i was unemployed, at sometime she decided to involve the csa after being told she could recieve more money !!! since then my new partner and i have been through hell spending months without money for basic food and bills relying on the generosity of family to help us survive and care for my other two children they excepted no evidence from us they just took my ex word on everything we produced a dossier of evidence to show that we had my son over 52 days a year they just phoned my ex she said we didnt they excepted her version even though we showed them photos of ross on holidays and camping trips family paties christenings weddings my partner lost her brother in afghanistan we showed them even all the mod and military occasions when ross was included in guest lists etc but this was ignored we pleaded our case to our mp asked him to intervene on our behalf they were taking at this stage almost 600 per month from my salary of leaving me with 200 per month this detachment continued for 5 or six months taking almost 600 hundred pounds a month they just kept saying its the law we are allowed

My new partner became extremely depressed as she had to lend from family to live and feed our two children they said they were allowed to do this as i had failed to respond to the paper work which was untrue, when we said about my other children they claimed i had not told them of other children yet i had a letter from them which they sent when they returned the childrens birth certificates that they had required from us as proof of my being the father, it dropped to them taking 268 per month, which they have continued to do till in november 2012 my company went from paying calendar month to four weekly payments, during this transition i had no salary so the company loaned us a lump sum to be paid back over twelve months it was 400 pounds just to help during the transition,so during this transition for some reason csa was not taken from wages even though it was direct payments from my wage, i phoned the csa who said they were doing a new court action order for detachment of earnings, january we again phoned the csa as they still had not requested a payment or directed my pay office to do a detachment of earnings, the csa said they were in the process of doing a new assesment and that was the last contact till the letter from them arrived yesterday saying they were taking 348 pounds a month from my income which is 40 per cent of my income leaving me to support my partner and two children on around 350 per month we have phoned them they just keep saying its the law its the law i dont think we can survive this again we have contacted our mp again but doubt we will here back for some time