Is my ex allowed to pay our daughter directly?

December 3, 2013

My 18 year old daughter has just started university and is living in halls. My ex husband has a court order to pay me £350 per month. He has now decided to pay the money directly to her. Is this allowed and if not what should I do to have the court order enforced?

Sincerely

Sharon Hanks

Comments

  • Sara says:

    He doesn’t have to pay csa anymore! You should inform CSA that she is in Uni and that child benefit is no longer being paid.

  • Lisa says:

    I hope your not still taking this money, your not now entitled to it,

    6. Changes you need to report

    There are some changes you must tell the statutory child maintenance services about by law. Depending on which service manages your case, contact the Child Support Agency (CSA) or Child Maintenance Service.

    What you have to report depends on whether you’re the parent or person the child lives with (the ‘receiving parent’) or the parent the child doesn’t live with (the ‘paying parent’).

    If you’re the receiving parent

    You must tell the service managing your case if there’s a change to:
    the number of children living with you that you get child maintenance for
    the number of nights a child regularly stays overnight with the paying parent
    the number of children that you or your partner get Child Benefit for

    You must also tell the service if:
    a child you get child maintenance for leaves full-time education (below A-level)
    you or any of the children you get child maintenance for no longer live in the UK
    you find out that the paying parent is coming off benefits
    you’re moving house or know that the other parent is
    your phone number (including mobile number) changes
    If you don’t give the Child Maintenance Service or CSA the right information

    You could be taken to court and fined up to £1,000 if you:
    don’t give the service managing your case the information it needs
    give the service information that you know is false

    This applies to any person or organisation who, by law, must give the Child Maintenance Service or CSA information, eg:
    employers
    accountants
    either parent
    You will end up paying the money back to him, the court order expires when your child no longer lives with you

  • Ellie Milao says:

    I find it laughable that you are seriously asking this question. That money is rightly your daughters, so why should he not give it to her directly. Or is it you never spent the money on your daughter and used it to fund yourself. Why the hell should he still pay it to you when your daughter is now living elsewhere.

  • Richie says:

    OMG you greedy skank ….

  • jo says:

    Why would you want the court order enforced? He’s going beyond his financial duties and giving his daughter money to use for herself whilst she is living away from home.

    Now your daughter is in university child benefit etc ceases to be paid.

    Be pleased that your ex is still contributing to her needs which your very lucky that he is.

    You sound very hard done by, angry perhaps that you no longer have control….good on your ex!

  • Mrs Beckham 2 says:

    The child support money is NOT your money. It is for the child. And now that the child is 18, as with Child Benefit, they are entitled to have it paid to them directly.

    However, this is only if the child is in non – advanced education up to the age of 20. Non – advanced education is college, 6th form….Uni is actually advanced education. Your daughter is free to accept any payments or contributions either parent wishes to make, just as any of us are, 18 is considered an adult in law.

    There is NO legal requirement that child maintenance has to be paid for your daughter if she is 18 and at Uni. The CSA need to be informed, and the case closed!!

    I wonder, now that your daughter is no longer living with you, are you going to contribute financially to her while she is at Uni?? Or are you leaving all that to her father??

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