I’m suffering because CSA can’t do its job properly
September 22, 2014
The father of my children has paid me £50 per week, increasing to £230 each month over the last 13 years.
I decided to approach the CSA last year, as I felt he was getting away with his responsibilities to support his two children and as they get older, I was struggling financially, more and more. He has his own architectural design business and employs no-one.
At a guess, he is earning somewhere between 35k and 65k. He refused to acknowledge the CSA by letter or phonecall. Eventually he declared a salary of £12,000 a year which resulted in the CSA telling him he should pay £234 per month. I hasten to add, he hasn’t increased my payment by £4!
The CSA told me there was nothing they could do about it, but I could gather photographic or paper evidence, however if I made an appeal, it would be a small fish in a big sea and probably not a priority.
The man in question owns and runs his own architectural design company, has just sold his 3 bed detached house to rent somewhere while he ploughs his money into land to build his own place, drives a nice car and motorbike, holidays regularly.
The CSA have not done their job, and my life is suffering because they chose to ignore his lies. How can they allow people to get away with this. His money covers my children’s school lunches and bus travel, and that’s all.
If he was assessed to pay that via them then be thankful he was paying voluntarily many won’t at least he is supporting them.
now ur just being greedy u should be happy with what u get my hubby has to pay out alot more than what u get and he has 3 children living with us and he pays his for the 2 children he aint aloud to c
He has declared his wage to the CSA. He pays more than he should for 2 children on what you’ve stated ..
I hope this guy does make a success of his business and I also hope he has set up savings funds for his children
It sounds familiar that you are saying your life is suffering. But he is being responsible and being a parent by supporting them
His support money is for the children not you
money money money all ur thinking about . CSA don’t really go after men that work for them selfs . He was paying willing want more do u want allot of people do get a thing and he dose not have to put it up , If he can prove he was paying you that in the 1st places all he has to do is get a lawyer n courts can over right the csa n evthing he so call Os long he still paying you want he was . You cant say yes to take his money then just say give me more .
230 on bus fare and lunch?!?! What do you feed them caviar? Move them to a school that’s walking distance and then you’ll save in bus fare. 230 is a lot of money. I wouldn’t be turning my nose up
How is he gettin awsy with supportin his kids if hes givin u 230 a month…….flamin muny grabber……women like u make me sick…..
This entire story sounds incredibly familiar, another greedy woman trying to fund her own lifestyle.
He’s paying for his children isn’t he. Hope you don’t mind me asking but do you work and support them too?
I bet he has then regular and buys them whatever they want too. A good dad isn’t defined by the amount of money they hand over but the quality of the time spent with their children.
Paid me* says it all really! I could only wish for that vast amount for my children and I’d be over the moon and it would all go on my children! How about you concentrate on your children’s happiness instead of screwing over your ex! Greed is an ugly quality to be!
Like everyone has said, be grateful that your ex has been supporting his children financially. There are millions of women like me who give their ex’s full access and don’t get a penny from the father but continue struggling financially and are happy and proud that we are providing as much as we can for our children. I have 3 children I financially raise by myself and I’m proud of myself, I would be over the moon to be getting the amount you receive, your very luckily. Be grateful for the financial help your ex is giving and move on with your life instead of dwelling over his life. As long as he is financially providing for the children (and I feel £100 per month per child is just about the right amount of money) your ex has every right to a life of his own and it sounds like he is working hard for it too.
Just listen to yourself!!!
You are a parasite!
Money grabbing bitch you really are selfish they are also your children so if he manages to support them with £230 plus paying his own bills you should be greatly remember he is only paying for the children and not for you to go get your nails done and have dinner out! He has to support himself and shouldn’t have to suffer this is so selfish. I wonder how much hassle you give him on top of this and how many times he is allowed to see his kids and have them used against him! There needs to be more support for single dads not just single mums because they always get the shit! And they don’t have a choice but to leave there children because they don’t get first request the mother does how would you feel if it was the other way around think about that
So so true
You horrible human being……230 dabs a month and it’s not enough, do you actually spend £230 a month on your child, and of course the CB you get would put that upto around £270. It beggers belief that people come on here and write this and probably excpect some sympathy!
You should be thankful that he is paying.
A lot of the parents with care just seem to always want more.
I am paying 315 a month. 72.84 a week for 1 child.