I’m struggling as the dad won’t give me a penny

March 16, 2014

I have a son who is five me and his dad was with each othor five years and have bin split up three years.

He does not give me a penny and works full time he has a good job and no more children he picks him up on a fri after school and drops him sat morning.

I have asked him many times to help and he just does not,,, am on my own and found it so hard to pay bills rent clothes shopping tranport to school trips etc,,, on my own with no help.

I rang csa they have alll my details i spoke for over a hour on phone,, they taken all my details off me,, and gave me a reff number…

His dad still wont pay for his son,, its getting me so down, i have not heard anything back from csa which was over a month ago now i just dont no what to do ,, if hes not giving me anything…

Comments

  • jo says:

    At phil I agree totally….to the op above, are you getting all that you’re entitled to? And aren’t school trips free if you’re on a low income?

    If your ex clearly refuses to help even with the essentials it might be worth giving child maintenance options a call where you can mediate with your ex on a suitable step forward.

  • Gonk says:

    @ Gloria
    Indeed fathers should contribute but they don’t…they pay the lot with no contribution from the mothers as Phil describes, these people get all the benefits under the sun and see the ex as just there to provide for the ex. They don’t see the ex as being to have a life after them.
    And Gloria…Andrew says the things he says because of frustration born out of the unfairness and biased nature of the CSA.
    I know not all mothers sit on their arses all day every day and work hard and juggle the kids in between. They have my full support and the fathers that go out of their ways to avoid paying at all cost are arseholes. It’s the mothers that use the system to line their pockets, expect the ex to provide them with a living,use the kids as cash cows and the father as an ATM machine. The skank Jeremy Kyle council estate trash that just breed kids get free money from the state and everything paid for inc the roof over their heads.
    WHEN do any of you bigging up the hard done by women on here read about the man getting so many hand outs for having the kids. He gets f** k all because he’s a man. He’s milked constantly for cash by these blood suckers and ex’s . WHEN do you ever read about the mother committing suicide because they reached the end of the line. IT SHOULD BE ABOUT FAIRNESS FOR BOTH SIDES NOT JUST THE BLOODY MOTHER.
    It’s disgusting that a woman can walk away from a supporting husband and good father because she don’t want him around any more after opening her legs for another bloke. Walks into a rent free house paid for by us the tax payer, pays no council tax, gets other benefits left right and centre, takes my child away from me and expects me to pay for the privilege….it’s a f****ing piss take as far as I’m concerned and disgusting, even more so when the skank shacks up with another bloke who’s working a full time job, yet some of you think it’s acceptable to try screwing the Nrp for even more cash if he meets another woman who’s working as well, BUT you don’t think it’s right that the Nrp should pay less if you have a partner working. One rule for the Nrp and one for the pwc.
    If I had my way, the skank I was idiot to marry wouldn’t get a penny, WHY you may ask…simple, I’m forced to pay what this agency dictates, for a start it don’t care about your out goings, we have no bills, no rent, no mortgage, no travel related work cost ZERO outgoings as far as the CSA is concerned, we are NOT means tested as some think we are on here. This is what you pay and you will pay it, fair enough but then the Nrp as no say how or even if his money is being spent for whom it’s intended for….he is just expected to shut up and just pay. Totally totally wrong.
    Any descent dad would pay for his kids but it’s the unfairness of this agency that causes so many fathers to try and avoid them. The way I see things…my ex shouldn’t get a penny from me, HER partner who wanted her and my child should pay for my daughters food in her belly and roof over her head. I will pay for anything else my daughter wants, should be my right and privilege and at least I see my money is being spent on my daughter and not on her skank mother and partner
    Gonk.

  • sue says:

    Hey guess what….it’s about the kids…why should they suffer because one parents walks away…
    .I work…I will work as many jobs as it takes…he works to drink!!!!
    What adult has the right to show a child the don’t care for them? to abuse them? desert them?
    Maybe the kids should have a legal system of their own…..how many of you would be worried then?

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