I’m awaiting my tribunal against the CSA

February 6, 2013

Split from my ex because he was a bully,abusive physicaly,mentally and sexually,took out a mortgage to pay him off so children could stay in family home where they were happy,soon as he received payoff he began treating them even worse,wouldnt feed them on access visits,mental cruelty and bullying toward them,stopped them having contact with paternal grandparents because he didnt like them giving their pocket money direct to me,both died heartbroken because they darent see their grandchildren(he bullied them too).

Lied continually to the csa and was true to his word that the children wouldnt get a penny from him.10 years without contact with his children then he recently moved back into our street ensuring that hes in their faces daily even though he chose no contact with them,his way of still been controlling i suppose.

Sons now 21 and 19 and daughter almost 18,all despise him because of the way hes treated not only them and me but also his parents,who before they died had to ring me from a public phone box to enquire about the children,so that he didnt check their phone bill and find out theyd been in touch with us.

I’ve now began a complaint against csa and awaiting tribunal,wont get any money but need to tell my story and tell csa these absent parents should not get away with treating innocent children in this way.

Rant over,thanks for reading!.

Comments

  • Lifesaver says:

    Blah blah blah
    You are NOT the minority women that’s innocent, in my humble opinion and I’m being nice here
    TAKE YOUR FING SOB STORY AS IM 100% certain your X loves and wants to see his kids like ALL OF US HERE!
    Get a job and provide for your kid, let the dad see his kid then grow the F up!
    You discuss me.

  • gonk says:

    wow lifesaver…that was to the point…lol
    she almost had me swimming in tears too..lol…til I read the last line of her story
    “absent parents should not get away with treating innocent children in this way”
    DARLIN…MOST OF US ABSENT PARENTS AS YOU CALL US….DONT GET AWAY WITH ANYTHING…THE SCUM CALLED THE CSA MAKE SURE THE TREASURY POT IS TOPPED UP NICELY BY US.AND DONT THINK FOR ONE MOMENT THE CSA GIVE A FLYING FUCK ABOUT THE CHILDREN…THEY DO NOT.
    Gonk

  • tank says:

    Im now 51,3 months ago the CSA sent me a letter demanding £61,000…I am currently appealing this,as my ex told me in 1993 she didnt want any money from me for the 3 kids…as i gave her the house and endowments…she refused access to all children and did infact tell me the kids have different fathers,
    20 years without a pot to piss in..these bastards are now hunting me down..the youngest of 3 was 16 in 2005 currently 23,when does this stop.My ex wife has already had a pay out and she is the one who distant me from the kids..where are our rights..where hasnt the court of european rights stepped in on thses illegal gits

  • Peter Brown (comment FEb 6th 2013)Yes,obviously its my side of argument. Rejection?no as i got rid of him,Revenge?possibly,i do feel bitter after been abused,wouldn.t you?Why should the CSA only concentrate on certain absent parents,ie,the ones who already pay,by demanding more and more from them,while letting scumbags like my ex get away with not paying,just because theyr.e :too clever for the system.:Dont be too quick to judge.

  • Lifesaver,(comment 6th Feb 2013),Very mature.Firstly,not sob story,TRUTH.Why would you condone abuse?Secondly,i didnt say most absent parents i meant the ones like my ex who abuse the system and cause decent absent parents to pay more. By the way how do you propose i make a 21 year old,19 year old and almost 18 year old see their father when they too have been abused by him?As for me growing the” f “up, ????Also, saying i discuss you, i think you meant disgust..

  • Gonk(comment Feb 7th 2013)Didnt attempt to have you in floods of tears,just told the truth,why would you condone abuse??Im well aware of the Csa.s shortcomings without you telling me,thats why i dont agree with scumbags like my ex not paying anything whilst decent people are pushed for more and more.Think what you are saying before you comment,abusers should not be supported.

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