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I want to make sure that the money is spent on my children
I think it’s totally wrong how csa say they can take money off you when ur not aloud to see your children as my X is a right bitch when I have given her money before she spends it on her self like hair extensions and that which has nothing to do with the money been spent on my children.
I think fathers should be able to protest this.
I not saying I don’t want 2 pay for my kids but the money I giving I want to no it is getting spent on my children and not on my X for her pleasures……..
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The government acknowledge the social effect of absent fathers but are more than happy to create them!!!
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@CSAHell agreed! Quick to try to let you not have contact with child yet very happy to take your money each week!
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I think as the paying parent and the non resident if you see the kids or not you have a right to have proof the money is been spent on the children, if you loved together you would discuss between you what needs to be bought. As this is not the case then as mentioned receipts should be produced every month. If the receiving/resident parent refuses then money should be put on hold till they comply. Or why not set up a seperate account so can only use money via this way and all purchases for children made from this so paying parent can monitor its not been spent on crap.
Just saying.
Rules need to be looked at.
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I completely agree! Makes me sick to the stomach to see my ex spending the money on herself!
if u have themoney for a lawyer u can now sent up a payment thing were u buy cloth , show ect or put it in to a saving account instead the ex getting it . its so wrong that father dont have a say i could never hurt my child like that women like that should be ashamed of them sel f
Please dont have a go at about what im about to say but a child doesnt need just physical things. Maintenance money is also for the upbringing of the child which means money towards bills etc to keep a roof over your childs head??
I don’t really see how that can be said tbh. Money goes into one big pot doesn’t it then you buy what’s needed?? (I’m gratefully not in this situation) as Tracy said it’s for general bills also?? Keeping your child clothed & pay for general bills to keep them warm and help to put a roof over their heads?? If your child is going without these things then fair enough kick up a fuss but why should your ex never buy anything for herself just because you “give” her a few quid??
Sounds like a good idea Paul a separate account could be set up & all purchases for the children are bought from there so there is transparency for both parties.
No need for any hidden costs after all it is the Child support Agency not the Mother support agency.
My ex spends money on her hire purchase for a car and also to pay for her weekly trip to the nails.
This is the same ex who says she struggles to buy clothes on the “measley amount I give” in a court room then whips out an iPad Air (within days of its release I might add) to check out when she is available. I comment “so that’s where my measley maintenance goes” I get a funny look from the judge then an understanding twist of the head. You couldn’t make it up!
I meanwhile show to Court with trousers my family purchased, my dads shoes (which he brought in wrong size), my dads old shirt and underwear from the other side of the triassic. Fair… Yes according to courts and the government.
Tracy lamb. I see where your coming from but to the point where my ex is raping the benefit system like no one’s business she has more than enough money to keep her house running also has her new bf staying there which i may add has been stopped from been around my daughters as he was done for indecent exposure and assault. And also why should us fathers pay 2 keep our exs house running when we have our own to run.. personally i think all us dad’s should get together and get something done about this…..
@ Tracy lamb
Your comment is pointless and and you really need to wake up.
This…we all know is not about material things for the child. The point of this thread is a lot of mothers spend the money on themselfs and only a small percent actually gets spent on the child to whom it’s intended for.
It’s disgusting that a father has no say or right to know how or if his money is being spent on his kids.its outrageous infact and makes my f***ing blood boil.
My self for example is forced to pay over £300 a month for my daughter who’s mother walked out of my life because she couldn’t keep her legs closed, took my daughter.
My money is subsidising her partners salary AND her other daughters up keep who’s father pays f**k all. Don’t matter how you brush over this or but about it…..because I have no right to know how my money is spent, leaves it open to abuse. Now DON’T anyone tell me or suggest that ALL my money is being spent on my child. Every penny should be spent on her. Her mother gets enough hand outs from the tax payer already to help her pay her gas and elec bills AND her partner works full time.
MY MONEY should ALL go on MY daughter NOTHING ELSE. that’s what CM is for. That why I’m so angry with this shite house agency. If it cared at all about the kids it should be seen to do so by having rules and regs in place that make sure a mother is spending my hard earned cash on his kid and not one penny on anyone or anything else.
Gonk
can u imagine fileing reciets for gas electric water bills the upkeep of a child. Just becos she has hair extentions surley she gets her own money to be spend upon herself? Like somebody said above if u see ur kids and u can see there doing without the basics and lacking things then kick up a fuss. If not the clearly the money’s going in the right direction for the UPkeep of the child and not just on physical items! I think I’d be angry if I found my maintenence money being spent and wasted on silly material items for a child just so u have the proof of it being spent!
@Trevor, As a father, I’d be looking for custody! I mean, her new bf done for Indecent Exposure!!! I would have said that was life giving you a chance to reclaim the best part of your family right there – your daughters!!!
Dude, perhaps you’re fighting the wrong battle?
Do your children a favor and try for custody. It costs £210 for the court application. A well-written letter stating your concerns will get you far than battling with the CSA.
Good luck
I am surely looking into getting custody of my daughters as the csa well seems a lot of people have trouble with them. I’m going 2 do everything I can at no matter what cost to make sure my daughters have a propper up bringing with everything they need.. as just found out my ex is now pregnant with the dirty gits baby