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I want to change my son’s surname and stop his dad seeing him
Me and my ex partner the father to my son split when he was 6 months old and has never payed for him, and when my son was 18months his dad moved to australia (for what he said was a year) but has now just started his second year out there. His dad also asaulted me with my son in my arms and was found guilty and has always been involved in drugs, as there for i do not want him around my son. My son is turning 3 this august.
And i would like to change his second name, is there any way i can do this? And i dont want him seeing my son if he does ever come is there any thing i can do to have full custody as have been told its all 50 50 between us.
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OK, violence aside (which is inexcusable if proven guilty), what gives you the right to exclude the natural father access to the child?. Why is it the woman has carte blance ability to exclude males any access to their children?. If he was continuously violent, then he needs help, but as always there are two sides in every story, and I bet nobody has heard/listened to his (as in my particular situation)story or reasoning behind what I suspect is frustration…..
We (men) are guilty until proven innocent in this current regime, therefore you have all the components you need to screw us over if you wish.
His drug use obviously needs help, and belies a deeper issue..as always men are 50% in the making and 100 % screwed for it!!!.
If you exclude your son from his father now, it will bite you later……best try and understand why he is avoiding, and you never know, if he doesn’t feel like hes gonna get shafted and everything is “reasonable” (key word here..) then you never know, he might step up to the mark and support “your” child……
men “tend” to avoid, because they know the demands are unreasonable (personal experience here!), and will lead to personal poverty and inability to support anything, including themselves.
there are always aresholes who won’t support when they can, and they should be held to account, nobody is going to argue that one., but very few look deeper & ask why? money, money, money..that tends to be most peoples issue these days….(inc my ex!! – money grabbing witch).
if you were not married, then I suspect deed poll will be your direction, but you cannot change the birth certificate….that is set in stone, not that they are a valid form of identity anyway!!!
If you were not married and his name not on the birth certificate then you can change it by deed poll, if he is then I’m afraid after 2003 fathers were given parental responsibility and you need his permission.
I want to change my sons surname too. My son is 2 + 4 months and has no contact with his father (his fathers choice) not mine. His fanmily have no contact either (their choice) desipite my attempts via , letter, phone and email to get them to see him. My sons father is on the birth certificate as he came and registered to make sure that he was (what a silly mistake on my part)! I have looked into getting his name changed and you can change it, you can apply to the courts even if he has parental responsibility. They will try and get consent from the father but if not it will go in front of a judge and they will decide if it is in the best interest of the child to have it changed especially if the child is part of a family and has no contact with the biological father and if they dont contribute financially toward the child (the father of my doesn’t, and has never controbuted). I will be applying to change my littlemans name so that he feels part of our family instead of having a surname that bears no relation to him when he sees no-one on that side of his family with the same name. Taken from a website Absent fathers holding parental responsibility:-
When a child’s father is absent and holds parental responsibility, problems naturally arise when trying to gain his consent for a name change. In this situation, it may be possible for a mother to change her child’s name by Deed Poll without the fathers consent or a court order.
The whereabouts of the father must be unknown and the child’s mother must have taken sufficient steps to contact him before making an application for a name change. When you receive your child’s Deed Poll document and start sending it of to the relevant organisations, you will need to enclose a covering letter giving details of your situation. This should explain your attempts to contact the child’s father, how long he has been absent for and how he is no longer a part of your child’s life. It should also mention that no financial contributions are made to the child’s upbringing and other details of a general lack of involvement.
Read more: http://www.ukdp.co.uk/child-name-change-court-order/#ixzz1y5NR9tk7
Hope this helps and good luck x