I thought the CSA was there to help
I don’t know were to start, my ex has never seen my son he will be 9 this year, its his choice not to see him iv’e always left the door open, he just doesn’t want to have anything to do with him. Anyway he’s now gone on to marry and have another child.
The CSA until last June July couldn’t keep track of him he kept moving round and leaving jobs,when they finally did, he started paying monthly under a deduction of earning order,but now that’s stopped because he’s dropped his hours in work,yet iv’e been told her works for his mother and his moving to canada.
Iv’e told the CSA they should just drop the case he’s never going to pay, I thought they were there to help people but they haven’t helped me. I don’t know what i can do anymore,myself and my husband work and my children are well looked after.
I thought the CSA was set up to help .I just wanted to vent really and other peoples stories. Thank you for taking the time to read mine.
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My daughters father owes about 2900 to his daughter so far and this is going up every week by £65.00,she is 12.CSA threatened him with a court action letter and now he has contacted them to arrange support for our daughter.I would rather he spent his time with her,than supported her financially,i have always stated this to him, from years back,she needs her father. He has let her down,he is hurting her not me cancelling visits,saying his sister,uncle,dad,aunt, are in hospital,or are dieing he even said that he was in rehab to get out of a visit,he is a director of a company. I always believe in total honesty. Our daughter is disabled.So yes i want revenge because he has had a chance to do a private arrangement of £15 per week and see his daughter!!! and payed it in a lump of 10 weeks,so that S£150.00 AND STILL DID NOT SEE HER,he last saw her in dec 2011,for an hour in Mcdonalds and promised her not me that he would see her at xmas,this did not happen.So when SHE does receive her £ I WILL be treating her big time to what ever she wants and needs because she deserves it after all he has put her threw!!! I chase up the CSA EVERY 2 WEEKS,if he is not seeing her he is going to PAY!!!!
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You thought the CSA was there to help? Where’d you get an idea like that?
If the NRP is constantly moving home and moving jobs it can be very difficult for the CSA to keep track of his current circumstances and employer, as you have found a DEO is only of any use if the NRP stays with that employer, if he moves on to a new job soon after a DEO is imposed and does not tell the CSA who his new employer is then tracing the new employer can take some time – if the PWC is unable to supply any info on the new employer the main trace action will be via HMRC. A new employer has something like 12 weeks to register a new employee and HRMC, so there’s a possible 3 months into a new job before even HMRC knows about it.
If you find out any info about where he is working then tell the CSA asap as this can often speed up the trace action. If he works cash in hand this is income that the CSA are often unable to prove – the advice at that stage would be to report this to HMRC as tax evasion.
If an NRP leaves and employer and the CSA are not told the last MC remains in place until they are notified – so the NRP will be running up arrears. The arrears will remain on the case and will be collected, most likely via DEO. Alternatively if the NRP is shown to have a history og job hopping the CSA may consider applying for a Liability Order, if this was to be considered it needs to be realistic, the NRP needs to have assets that would cover, or go some way towards, the arrears. If the NRP is in a rented flat has nothing of any value to his name and no savings then a LO is not likely to be of much use.
Hi jayjay.. I second what CSAhell.com says….
However what they do help with is:
They help to destroy your life,
They help destroy your financial security
They help destroy your faith in man (morals, honesty, integrity mean nothing to their staff)
They only thing the CSA succeeds at is coming up with excuse after excuse as to why they can’t help you with what you NEED…
Good luck…
Indeed Sally,
And yet they dont seem to be helping children maintain relationships with their absent parent, but encourage the complete opposite by financially rewarding the pwc to severe the bond.
All I can say to nrp’s in this situation is that one day our children will find out the truth, and then for the pwc, there will be no excuses to hide behind.
Its just that nrp’s happen to be great target that no-one will bat an eyelid to, because its like some moral victorian scurge upon the likes of those most vulnerable in society, termed “benefit scroungers”, “disability frauds”, “absent parents”…yes we are just one of the sound bites that are going around that whore up some media public frenzy into completely forgetting about the sad situation of how we all ended up in these scenarios. Because if the truth was spouted that theres not enough jobs so there are people who lost their jobs, and cannot find another, and theres not enough training opportunities to help get another job or switch careers, so many are left on scrap heap, as highly experienced “benefit scroungers”. No compassion for people on disability, whether they just need some time to heal from illness, or born with a condition, its pure evil how these people are treated. More so when our current PM’s son was disabled too. If someone cannot have empathy for others in same situation, that is the mark of a psychopath.
As for absent parents, well, we lost a relationship with those we once loved. Our exes may have left us in hurtful ways, or we left due to hurting from a bad relationship. Not all of us are absent through choice, not all of us planned it like this. Yet we are ALL painted as immoral scum, and need to be made to pay for “not putting something on the end of it” The fact is that alot of us want to support our children (as well as those fair pwc’s, as they do care for our children), and also rebuild our lives. Funny how brainwashed people are when you say that…instantly viewed as selfish because you want to have a vocation or profession you love, and even be able to afford a holiday once in a blue moon, or have a hobby. No, you should live a life of poverty and depression, to pay for your sins of having a child with the wrong person.
Christian country? F*** off….
So while there will always be a MINORITY of every social group that takes the piss, and absent parents that dont care at all, its the majority that ends up paying the tab.
The only help we can get is the continuation of discrimination against nrp’s, and help to keep embittered pwc’s using children as their bargaining chips.
“I thought the CSA was there to help
February 5, 2013”
Noo noo noo noo noo, whatever gave you that idea?
The csa are there to collect money, every so often the money they collect gets passed on to those who it is meant for – children.
More often than not it is collected for the secretary of state for the DWP.
Some of us think the csa is no more than a ‘sham’, a ‘ponzi’ scheme, a ‘fradulent’ tax collecting exercise. You may come to your own conclussions.
Good luck
OMG wheer did you get the idea from that the CSA would help, From the amount of posts about how naff the csa are it speaks for itself,
Just one thing to all the PWC who think “they are owed” actually you are not owed, your children are, thats probably why you are struggling to get money from your ex because you claim its for you, open your eyes your ex owes you nothing, just because you happened to have a child with him doesnt mean he has to be at your beck and call because you need cash, At the end of the day you gave birth to that child your responsibility to bring it up financially and emotionally, if the ex has walked does that not tell you somethnig????
I dont want him to be at my beck and call i just would like him to be there for his child to at least meet him and yes i do bring my child up financially and emotionally but so shouldnt his father do the same or is it ok for men to go around having kids here there and everywere and not take care of them stand up to there responsibilitys.I love my child to bits and so does my husband who has taken him on as his own.It seems this site is for men who want to get out of paying for the children they help make,it takes two to have a child,my ex left just before i got preg cus he cheated and then when i told him i was preg he never wanted to know.rant over.