I think I should give up as I’m getting nowhere with the CSA
Hi well it’s a very long story, my sons dad hasn’t payed to his son properly now since he was 3 years – he is now 15 years. The Csa got involved when he was about 6 years. Every time they found him and were he was working he would pay for a few month then move job and house.
They kept telling me there was nothing they could do to him as he changed address to every time payment stopped. I had to write a complaint to get them to try find him again this went on till he was about 13 years now they tell me he isn’t working so I get £6 a month. Were is this £6 a month? I saw it for a couple of month then it stopped. I think after all these years it’s better for me to just give in and let the man do what he wants as I’m getting nowere with the Csa.
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Are you 100% sure that your ex hasn’t been paying? Only the scum had been taking money off me and not paying my ex for months before we both realized what was going on, they were lying through their backteeth to her, telling her that they could “only pay her when they got money from me”, when I showed her my payslips she realized what was going on, but it still took her 12 months and her MP’s involvement before they would start paying her, and all the time taking money from me…
It’s really nothing more than a Government slush fund.
Are they sure he’s not working???? Ask how they know ??? As the flat rate for benefit claimants is £5 not £6 and this us taken direct from their benefit at source so ask where this us and why you haven’t received it??? Might be caught up in the holding system. Also get them to check regularly regarding his employments status.
I can understand your sentiment of chucking it in. It takes a lot of energy letter writing, calling and complaining to the CSA. Only you can decide if it’s worth all the effort making the CSA do its job and hold the NRP to account, sometimes years later.
It took me 15 years to get the CSA to start collecting £12,000 in arrears from my wife’s ex, who did exactly what your son’s dad seems to be doing. The DOE money is now paying for my step daughter’s wedding as she is now an adult. Even though her Dad is coerced into funding this life event for his daughter, at least we can’t be accused his money is ‘propping up our life style’ as was this character’s reason for shirking his responsibilities in the past. Jealousy is not a valid reason no not support your kids.
There also is a moral issue involved, or at least I think there should be. NRP’s who are refused access to their kids have in my mind a moral case of withholding payments until access is resolved. Just like the founding fathers of the US said ‘no taxation without representation’ to the King of England. But if the NRP was the one having an affair and broke up the family to start a new one, I think he/she is walking on very thin ice if he/she withholds payments for his/her kids in a previous relationship ‘because he/she feels it only props up the ex’s life style. Also the NRP claiming he/she pays taxes for the state to step in and pay for their offspring is morally bankrupt. This is why the CSA was created in the first place.
Mr Whitey is right that your money may just be sitting in some CSA holding account so ask them to check that first. This happens if money is paid to the CSA with the wrong payment reference. This can take weeks to clear if you don’t complain.
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