I now have to pay CSA dodging, sorry excuse of a man

October 24, 2014

My daughter is now 18years old. She lived with me until earlier this year when she moved to the Glasgow area where here father lives. My daughter left school in December 2013 when she was still only 17 years old and moved in with her father in March 2014.

Her father and I separated when she was 1 year old. Until she turned 16 years old her father successfully dodged the CSA by quitting jobs and moving house if the CSA ever caught up with him. I on the other hand worked full time, and in 2006 started a successful career as a civil servant.

I worked extremely hard to get where I am and missed out a lot of the time on my daughter growing up and still encouraged her contact with her father every weekend. The CSA were no real help to me- it was a financial struggle the older my daughter got.

My daughter started a non-advanced course in college in Renfrewshire in August 2014, totalling in an 8 month break from education and turning 18years old in that time too. You can imagine my disappointment when I received a letter from the CSA informing me that the dutiful father had put a claim into the CSA against me.

So it has been decided that I have to pay father of the year £2786.05 a year as long as my daughter is in education. So father of the year has decided he wants a direct debit arrangement set up on a monthly basis.

The sad, sorry excuse of not just a father but a man too is now laughing all the way to the bank with my hard earned cash – I will point out that he was eventually made to pay me a grand total of £512 in my daughters final year at school- a tiny fraction of what I will now have to pay, given I had no financial help during her schooling prior to this.

So my experience of the CSA is extremely negative. My struggle feels like it was for nothing and just because I eventually got a successful job which included a promotion I worked hard for, I am actually being punished.

Her father is a waster and never wanted a full time or well paid job purely to avoid paying for his child. Completely disgusting attitude from the CSA to me, delving into my business eg my earnings and details of my future pension. I am absolutely shocked of the CSAs treatment to me and now treating my daughters father as the poor victim. Dispicable!!!!

Comments

  • marie says:

    I know how you feel my ex did the same with me .the c.s.a are a joke . my child moved in with her dad last year thinking the gress is greener on the the other side and it not .I found out last week he kicked her out and now she homeless because she dose not want to come home . so now she seen her dad for what he is . 14 mth he had her . she will be 18 in 5 wks

  • Adrienne Park says:

    Well David, the CSA could not keep up with him. It actually got to the stage I was fed up making the phone calls only to be told ‘the CSA are still investigating Mr ***** and gathering information’. When my daughter was about 16 they eventually wrote to me stating that I would be getting £11.something a week plus a small sum of arrears which did not amount to very much. And due to the fact the arrears have been paid (only a couple of £100) , the case is closed …………. and will not be reopened – despite 15 years of not helping towards the cost of School uniform, Gym kits, School bus fayres/school lunch money, School trips………. the list goes on!!!! To make matters worse any time I have a conversation with the CSA and question them on legal stuff and challenge them they cant answer me- so I have refused to give them bank details until I get a straight,t knowledgabe response, at the end of the day they couldn’t even answer one of my questions !!!

  • Adrienne Park says:

    I always knew the CSA were useless. And its such a shame there is so many negative comments about an organisation some mothers and fathers have to put their faith in. Its so hard to believe that so many people run from their responsibilities as a parent, leaving the other one to struggle for years. Im actually glad too that I am not the only one that has been let down by the CSA, and the sad thing is they will go on making mistakes- demanding too much money off some people. I ran out of faith in them a long time ago.

  • Adrienne Park says:

    I saw so many negative comments on here, mainly from fathers saying the CSA most times favoured the mother etc but not in my case, they were never going to help me.

  • Bill says:

    If the qualifying child is over fourteen and living full time in Scotland they are entitled to receive any child maintenance directly. You need to speak to somebody at the CSA about this!

  • jo says:

    What makes your plight any different to your ex? You got csa involved and he dodged them, wrong of him yes but now you see how csa are, do you blame him for quitting his jobs?, csa are ruthless. He is facing up to his responsibilities now and be thankful he is looking after his daughter, we’ve only heard your side, maybe his is different. If he was so bad, why has your daughter gone to live with him? The tables have turned and you don’t like it, I don’t see how you can have a valid argument about csa and how bad they are when it was okay for you to involve them in the first place and because it didn’t work in your favour, you’re complaining. Hopefully when new cases are up and running you can both come to a sensible agreement.

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