I look after my son and don’t pressure my ex for money

I live with my 12 year old son, have done since I split with my ex-partner, 6 years ago.. In that time, there are 2 main reasons why I decided NOT to pressurise her for any monies.

1. We split amicably, so in the hope our son would see this atmosphere continue, I thought it best to discuss any financials, one on one with her..

2. She worked full time, around 3 years ago, but I have to say, has NEVER taken her financial responsibilities seriously, at any time. Perhaps £20 every few months, despite earning in excess of £14,000 per annum. Since she became unemployed,she has obviously job seekers allowance and zero savings, so little point chasing her still..

I have really been struggling now, financially, she has secured a morning job Monday – Friday, 4 hours per day, at £6.00 per hour. Given my mother and father have paid £100 per month, in truth, doing her job, for the last 6 years, I think it’s about time, she meets her responsibilities. I spoke to her today, asking her when she starts, she told me 11th February..

Let her know I think it would be nice if she could start helping me.. She replied, that she would contact you (CSA) to see how much she would be expected to pay, although she said, as she is living with her parents, she would be “expected to pay the shortfall in council tax benefit shortfalls, that they would receive”. I think this is dreadful, it clearly shows the priorities in which she fails to show..

She also added, that she wouldn’t be topping up my rent, which is the segment, my parent’s have supported me with, for years. She said, that she gives our son, £20-£30 per month, which I have never seen. My reply being, that support isn’t helping ME in any way, to look after him ie shopping, haircuts etc etc.. Feeling pretty put out by it all now, she clearly resents giving me any money, directly, preferring to give our son some pocket money!!! Could you help please