I just want what’s right for my child – something has to be done
I have tried very hard not to comment on the incompetance of the CSA as i imagine the law surrounding Child Support is as easy as the colour grey, but having put up with it for seven years, enough is enough.
I have turned investigator and have found all the details needed for where my sons dad works and have provided them with this information as i was told that this would be the fastest and easyest way for them to progress my claim and having called them back two weeks later, they have not even allocated my file to a file handler.
My sons dad is now in over £2,000 of arrears (he only pay’s £21 a week and earns twice as much as me) and i am starting to think that although he is more than responsible for not paying and not keeping the CSA up to date, the CSA are also to be held accountable for letting the situation spiral out of control. I am at a total loss as to what to do but as I am struggling to feed myself as well as my child, he is buying himself a new car and lavishing the money he should be paying for his first born on his new child and step child. i know this from his bragging and pictures on the dreaded Facebook.
When he first stopped paying, i presumed that he had lost his job and had no intention to chase him for money that i knew would make him struggle, but upon finding out that he had simply moved jobs to avoid paying and had decided not to contact the CSA and tell them, he deserves to be in this debt, and i will never have sympathy again.
i just want my son to have the food and clothes that he needs and that i am failing as a full time working mother to provide. Something has to be done.
Any help would be very much appreciated as i am doing everything i can, including finding the information on where he works for the CSA. This is beyond a joke and completely not fair.
Sophie. 26
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and so does every mother including their own children with yr ex why is it that exs think that their exs new partners kids should do with out as they feel hard done by the ex his new misses and their kids are also allowed a life. i agree something should be paid but yr earnings should be taken in to consideration as their BOTH of your kids not just his to support he is not a check book and their outgoings for mortgage water etc should be taken in to consideration to what is left to live on should be done before paying ex partners……. rant over jsuyt anoys me the minute a ex gets a new partner the mothers kik off i want more muny stuff their kids they can starve so long as mines ok does my head in…..
Get a grip of yourself woman, you sound like your begging, have you ever thought maybe he is allowed to have a life without you in it,The only things thats beyond a joke here is you stalking your ex, my god is it any wonder so many people avoid the CSA having an ex like you, good look to the guy i dont blame him one bit
Spot on Melanie…. All kids should be equal….
Unfortuneatly, you just saying hes working for X, isnt going to be enough proof for the agency, The whole investigator thing sounds ridiculous in all honestly, That said, give it a few weeks and next time you speak to a caseworker ask them to issue somthing called a “720” its a form that will go to the inland revenue and they will return a copy of his current work information, if that differs from what they have on the system, they will not pursue the new employer.
All respectable parents want what is best for their children.
What has it got to do with incompetent office workers at the CSA. They are not qualified lawyers. They live in the land of ‘make believe’, and are only interested in their performance indicators and bonuses and don’t give ‘two hoots’ about children or their parents. it’s DWP ‘money laundering’ for stakeholders.
Wake up and smell the coffee. 20% of parents don’t pay at all. £3.8 billion remains uncollected. CSA is in meltdown as they try to demonise and criminal parents for being parents!
Sort it with your ex without the involvement of the CSA.