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I just want to get the right payments sorted

November 19, 2013

wanting to see the right amount of csa my daughters dad should be paying, he is on a very good wage and wasgiving me 50 a week with no other help off him for other things he has another son now married and moved away ..

he is currently out of work for the last 8 weeks so he said but is waiting to start more work. i only got 100 last month off him and he says i will get nothing this month .

his wages from before should of been enough to cover these months and he may should possibly be paying more than he was im unsure what he makes but as i am aware offshore workers make a good 800- maby more a week .

he sees my little girl at weekends and school holidays which he never used to do .but never saw her for a long time, he used to go 6-8 weeks without seeing her . he has been not very nice to me and causing trouble so i am cutting down contact ..

i just want to get the right amount sorted through yourselfs so i dont have any more problems about money through him or i need to have to ask him for it all the time as i am always having to ask him for it . he still owes now 100 from last month. i cant afford to get everything for my daughter on my wage she is 6 7 in april

Written by Leanne Morrison · Filed Under CSA Complaints 

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  • derek miller says:
    November 19, 2013 at 12:14 pm

    £50 a week when working seems more than reasonable.. if you cut contact he will probably do what I would do, not pay you. some PWC receive nothing. personally I wouldn’t complain. What does the state pay you each week for your childs welfare? bet £50 is not far off. think long and hard before going to the CSA, thats all I’m saying

  • Adrian says:
    November 19, 2013 at 12:17 pm

    Ok well I started reading you message and could understand where you was coming from untill I got to the bit where you said you were cutting down contact. This alone makes you like a lot if other pwc. You use you child to get what you want !!!!! Doesn’t matter how you look at it your child had no part in you and your ex splitting up.
    The csa isn’t there for you to bleed the nrp dry. It’s there to provide support. But people like you abuse it.
    Angry or not you need to get a grip and think. Do you think cutting contact is gonna get you what you want ???

  • jo says:
    November 19, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    If you go to the csa they will calculate him as having a dependant in his home which would reduce maintenance to you.

    If he is struggling why can’t you meet him half way instead of being demanding?

    And cutting down contact just sounds mean on your child, if you two aren’t getting along then have a 3rd person be the middle man so you don’t have to meet.

    If he has contact does he not pay anything towards her when he has her…I doubt it so why make it about money?

    All children need is stability and if your getting everything your entitled to before maintenance comes into then you should be fine. I’m talking from experience, a pwc with 2 children who would sooner the kids had their dad in their lives than a mere 50.00…I get nothing and that’s with the csa being involved!

  • Lisa says:
    November 19, 2013 at 5:37 pm

    Because your ex isn’t working he actually owes you nothing but a fiver a week till his circumstances improve, and cutting contact isn’t going to make things better it’s just going to make him hate you even more than he probably does, the only reason your cutting contact is because you think you will get more money, shows the mentality of you spiteful mums that think of their own bank balance before their own children’s feelings, might be time to get a grip and stop being so bloody greedy

  • anon says:
    November 22, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    if you cut contact as you say you will then you should be reported to social services as a child abuser [emotionally damaging your own child intentionally].

    you would have got away with it a few years ago but not now.

    if he is giving you grief you have your own remedies without having to cut contact and as said above he is out of a job so owes you nothing.

    have you noticed how the police and SS failed to react in several of the recently publicised serious case reviews because the Mother claaimed DV – that should also now change.

    can I suggest that you stop bitching to him – he might be nice to you and welcome any support you give him to get back to work – you do want to go back to £50 per week don’t you?

  • leanne says:
    December 16, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    for evetyone sending me nasty comments i have my reasons to cut down contact he still clls and speaks to her and i am working thanku very much so the lot off ya go and jump off a bridge with that one…. i think 50 is fair but not enough no considering he giver her nothing else 4 school birthdays xmases clothes .. yeh its enough when ur a single mum on yer own trying to provide ebsoloutly everything its ok 4 u ppl with 3. 4 kids spondgin of the benifets aye? i have my reasons 4 cutting contact as everything that goes on is messing her hea dup and he still sees her u dnt know the half of it i clearly asked how do i go about sorting it properly to get the right amount wether its less or more …so if all yer going to do is bitch then please dont bother as its all crap yer saying

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