I just want him to pay what he should as a £45,000 a year earner

January 21, 2014

I have been divorced 7 years and have fought my ex husband through the csa for 7 years but he is a self employed plasterer! who through his accountant makes out he earns £400 per week, he now lives with the 3rd partner in the last 7 years who has 3 children her self.

She Works part time claims CTC gets full maintenance from the father of her children along with all other benefits. His accountant makes it look like he earns less through dividends and employing a secretary that gives his £5,000 roughly tx exemption ( his secretary is his mother) and believe me she is not working for him! He does cash jobs ! mates rates! Etc etc….. I get £230.00 per month to provide for his two children??

I have fought and fought this ! But trust me the only one who ever withs is the self-employed father who has a good accountant! One day my children will know… The new law to work out on their gross pay before the accountants diddle the figures I thought would help but you have to go 13 away from csa before they will even start the ball rolling ….. I don’t want his not to have any money to live I just want him to pay what he should as a £45,000 a year earner!!!! Towards his childrens upbringing ….x

Comments

  • jo says:

    230.00 is a lot more than most get….I have 2 children and get zilch and your ex being self employed you’re very lucky he hasn’t declared even less, if he has at all.

    If he lives with his partner and 3 children then reductions would be made also and if she works then good for her for supporting her children also….plus how do you know for certain if her ex pays maintenance? You seem to know an awful lot for an ex partner?

    Does your ex have contact with his children?

    You do come across as sounding jealous of your ex, sorry but that’s how the post reads….if csa have investigated and his income is correct what more do you want? If you feel he is living beyond his means you can ask for a variation to how he is living but the onus is on you to provide proof.

  • Richie says:

    Greedy cow … 230 is plenty sufficient!

  • Gonk says:

    Yes indeed you don’t know for sure what he earns and I see the dollar signs in your eyes thinking about what you could milk him for with the CSA’s help. He should indeed be helping to provide for his kids but sadly because of how unfair and biased the CSA is towards the pwc and how so many mothers just see the ex as an income, I say good luck to him. Work this unfair system all you can because if you came clean you be screwed hard. Have you wandered why he works the system? Maybe he knows what nasty bastards the CSA are and maybe he thinks you will take him to the cleaners given half a chance? I’m not condoning a father deliberately try and dodge the system,hell why would I, it’s because of those that don’t pay, people like me and thousands others are easy meat for the CSA being on paye, but I fully understand why some dodge the system…because its unfair.

    @ Richie…..you think she’s a greedy cow getting £230 a month for 2 kids. What would you call my ex then ? That bitch gets £320 a month from me for 1 child whom she took from me after opening her legs for another bloke and leaving me. So she get all the benefits permitted, works herself, has a full time working partner and I’m topping up their income to the tune £320 a month. Call me old fashioned but in my books when a bloke goes out of his way to take your wife and young kid from another man, then the prick should look after them both lock stock and barrel. I WILL GIVE MY DAUGHTER OTHER THINGS SHE WANTS INC LATEST GADGETS AND FANCY CLOTHS AND TRIPS . That should be my choice under the circumstances, he should be the every day provider who puts food on her table and clothes on her back. They are both laughing at mugs like me and thousands of other ex dads
    Gonk

  • jo says:

    To gloria….hello I’m a woman raising two children so I’m sorry the poor single mum act doesn’t work with me and I get nothing from my ex….but I’d rather the children have their dad in their lives than his wallet and not argue over such….I’d be happy with 10.00 a week in all fairness.

    If this man is paying what he can afford why vilify him for doing so, it’s only the op’s side we’re are seeing! If his current partner works why should this matter in her case, like if she were to have a partner his income wouldn’t matter either….they had the children not the current partners, and im sure the nrps tax credits have been included in any calculations which is wrong!

  • Gonk says:

    Well said Jo
    Gloria…listen to YOURSELF, see you had to use the words “you men” . You need to get real lady. Answer me this Gloria..how come you never hear about the pwc with suicidal thoughts and self harming because of how they are treated by the CSA.
    Gonk

  • John says:

    My adulteress ex wife, soon realised that she couldn’t get everything her own way, in attempting to ‘punish’ me regarding her ‘new life’. She thought everything was going to be rosie, and that everything would be done to suit her. Dream on!

    Because of this she attempted to punish me financially and emotionally, using the children, the CSA and divorce lawyers. Sorry it didn’t work, and all her vented anger fell flat on its’ face…like her!

    Money can be replaced. Interaction between the children and their father can never be replaced, and because she broke court orders, many times, regarding contact, my contact with the children ceased.

    I now have two very bitter children, who seem to aim their anger at me, rather than at their mother, who caused the situation in the first place.

    The CSA is a divisive organisation, that has no rights whatsoever to interfere in private family matters. They cause more harm than good, and where fathers should take responsibility, and support their child/children (as I did), the UK government just does not realise the damage the CSA and government policy is causing………..but that’s life!

  • jo says:

    @ gonk, it riles me it truly does….with what single parents get in benefits to subsidise incomes and then say they don’t get enough….how much is ever enough?

    Yes of course nrps should support their children but why do exes insist that every aspect of their lives should be put under scrutiny if they feel they are missing out? Why is money always the first factor?

    Pwcs that are receiving something are making it harder for those that don’t by keeping on at the csa.

    If the op feels the ex his hiding his income has she not actually spoken to her ex to see if he can help out more….of course an nrp is going to be invasive if a pwc keeps on to the csa instead of trying to be amicable….especially as she knows so much about her ex’s circumstances.

    And children do not need to know anything about finances to score one against the other….I hope this pwc isn’t deliberately bad mouthing the nrp just because csa have sided against her.

  • Charlie Fields says:

    You horrible despicable women, you are all that is wrong with society today…you assume, play the victim and think the world owes you a living!!

  • Louise Peach says:

    Leave her alone!
    It’s awful when you KNOW what your ex earns (because you LIVED with them, saw their bank statements, lived their lifestyles and then as soon as they do one theyre claiming to earn a pittance so as not to pay what they should for their kids. Kids it took 2 to make!! What is wrong with you all? This is a support forum.
    Excuse them and ignore them..I’m in the same boat (sadly though my self employed ex pays only £5 a week (sometimes, when he feels like it) and its a bad boat to be in!

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