I haven’t seen a penny since 2002 – please help
Needs some much needed advice as the CSA are totally useless and favor the deadbeat dads and there new families….I split up with my partner of 3 years when our twin girls were born as i found out he was having an affiar and he quickly left the family home to move in with her,
I contacted the CSA after the failed to keep up the agreement we had both set up and havent received a penny now since 2002, all i get is lies and excuses off the CSA and i dont see how I should struggle while they live in there 165k house, new cars and holidays a year and when I tell them of these facts all I get is he dosent own anything as the bastard has put it all in her name to avoid payments while he brings up her kids,
I only work 27 hrs a week cant afford holidays or heating and now need ways to get him and the arrears im rightly owned please help !!!!
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@ Mary Elwood. It seems to me becouse the ex has put everything in his new partners name you basically do not have a leg to stand on. However I am no expert but seem to remember there is a person here on the site who works for the csa and is happy to tell anyone who needs help, there best cause of action. Can’t remember who the person was but if you go through the posts on this site I’m sure you will find them. Good luck
Hi Mary.. I completely agree, the CSA are absolutely useless and the staff who work for them are liars, thieves and ignorant!!
Different circumstances but I am an NRPP (the other woman) who has all assets put in my name (albeit 80% was mine to begin with)… There is very little you can do I’m afraid, especially if it was all done legally…
However, we didn’t do it to affect the kids (they get lots more now) we did it because the CSA and the ex (who spent the child maintenance on herself and not the kids) were making our lives a misery with the ex’s greed for money…. She demanded more money (my partner paid her more than CSA dictated)… She thought she should be entitled to my income and while I’m happy to spoil and treat the kids, there is no way on earth I’m paying for another females gym membership, new car, and frequent holidays abroad … So I took legal advice… There is nothing the CSA can do to get money from me…
Don’t you get working tax credits, child tax credits and child benefits as well as your salary?
Yes i do but every penny is spent and accounted for my kids get a bare style life and its unfair he shud pay towards them i didnt get them on my.own, ive said all payments will stop once they are 18 but he.just either ignores me or his gf slags me off its not on
Hi Sally,
Its disgusting how these money grabbing PWCs continue and are allowed to get away with it. Yours’ was getting more then on csa so went to csa to get your money too just goes to show how low some of these PWcs will go and the csa side with and let them. I’m a PWC whose had little or nothing over the last 10 years to support our children. I wouldnit mind if my ex was on the dole or something like that but they has a brill job taking home net ,in his pocket, over £800.00 a week doesn’t seem fair but the csa just don’t care
i help you, get a job if you cant live, like the father have to. if i can have or see my kids then i will work for them. y dont mothers work for they kids, if you cant look after them y have them in the first place..like the csa say to us fathers if we cant pay y have them, but we dont have them so we still have to pay…nice in it..
Actually Andrew I think if you read it she has a job!
Takes 2 to have a child – 2 should support them.
Think you need to get facts right first.
Anyway before more of the same sort of comments – join the facebook group Child Support Agencies Failings for support and advice.
@ Karen…. Jog on…. Nobody is interested in what you have to say… You CAUSED the problem between your children and ex because YOU were jealous the he was happy with another woman….. You and not a DECENT person… You might have got 17k from CSA/ex… But morally it is WRONG…. Your kids relationship with their father is worth more than your greed and jealousy 🙁
@ Lizzy…. It as terrible the PWCs like the one in my life can get away with it but I fully appreciate how difficult it is for PWCs who get NO help with the kids… BOTH parents should contribute but the CSA system is all wrong… Staff play one parent off against the other and course friction… This is in hope that the parents stop communicating and then they take the money from the NRP … Don’t give it to the PWC but tell the PWC it’s never been received the end result is that the angry PWC blames the ex…. It’s destroying families and relationships ate CSA don’t care….
CS3 is supposed to be about parent making their own private arrangements but when their staff are promising PWCs more money to use CSA why would they want to make a private arrangement?? The staff are the lowest of the low and wouldn’t get a job anywhere else….
Karen..yes fuck off as usual you only show up when its a pwc issue. it takes 2 to make a child yes..but when the fucking csa get their claws into us hard working honest dads,they screw us..IT IS NEVER A “2 TO SUPPORT THEM” as you say,so get your fucking facts right. Its the NRP that’s bled bled bled..where the fuck is the pwc’s input.
You are the least of people that should be offering advise,where did you support your kids?? you just spend tax payers money milking us all for what you can get.
You had your win now crawl back under your stone
Gonk