I don’t get paid maintenance because Ex’s ex is lying to CSA

July 28, 2015

Csa are useless, my ex husband was with a girl 14 years ago, who fell pregnant and never said a word until she went into labour at 33 weeks. She’d been caught with another man. This lead to suspicions regarding parentage. When my husband I got together, he was painting and decorating and it wasn’t lucrative. He still paid her £40 per week, and I bought clothes and outfits for the child plus my own child. She would strip the little girl in the street and fling the clothes back at us. When we got our own house (rented) and had a daughter she rang hurling abuse etc regularly, trying to keep the peace I arranged a meeting for my ex to see the child. We met and she demanded my sons pram as apparently we had loads of money, my ex was out sick with suspected TB or worse (biopsy’s were done) and I had a 1 year old. She rang later that day and screamed down the phone that the child wasn’t his anyway with numerous other vulgar things said. He stopped paying her direct and we went and seen a solicitor who told us the only way the court will pay for DNA was for him to attempt visitation and her to deny it and thus him take her to court to prove the child is his.. She refused dna and visitation and then proceeded to have my ex husband held at gunpoint (not sure if these were fake or real) he was told to stay away or else.

We had a daughter and set up our family life, for 10 years. After this we amicable separated and he paid me maintenance every month for our daughter and my son (his stepson, but he’d raised him from a baby) this was his choice and he sent the amount which was reasonable, not flash but not ridiculous. Last year he received a letter stating he owed £20000 in arrears from this ex and it was to be deducted from earnings at 40% he earns £16000 a year, he hasn’t seen the child declared not his in 13 years and had nothing no letters, no complaints nothing in that time that would of led us to believe the pwc had lied about parentage. Now I’m getting nothing not a bean because he has major deductions from his wage slip that leaves him with barely enough to pay his rent, he can’t afford to have our two children every weekend anymore because he can’t afford to feed them or things (my choice) he sees them as much as he can, but this has taken a severe toll on him and our two children and me. We aren’t together but we are friends and I help with his admin etc. so I know his financial situation is correct.

The Csa won’t take our daughter into consideration because I won’t have that deducted from his wage too.. We tried to get them to take her into consideration to reduce the current outgoing amount so that my daughter didn’t suffer as a consequence. She has now thou, I’m a mature student and the maintenance I received helped ensure my daughter had the basics such as pe trainers, feminine products, coat and the such to ease the burden on me as a single mum studying.

The Csa are a bunch of money raping idiots, who persecute every person as if they were the worst in the world. They don’t consider that my sons bio dad is a waste of space on £50000 a year and gets away without seeing his son or paying and yet my ex husband tried so hard to spare £50 so my children could have the basics.

Just to note his ex has 5 kids with 5 different dads and apparently had them all threatened and then took them for as much as she could get 2000 pm in maintenance… Justify that?

I feel sorry for men and women.. Parents who don’t care need to pay up, men that want to see there kids need to be allowed and women who lie to Csa need strung up!