I can’t afford my maintenance
i am divorced and have 3 children, two with my ex husband and one with my current boyfriend. My two older children are 16 and 14 and my young one is 18months, i dont work as im a full time mother and i look after my baby all day every day which is a full time job for me. my husband looks after the two older children most of the time but the 16 year old girl is rarely at his house spending most of her time at her boyfriends.
my ex husband has just started claiming benefits off me even though i have no wages or income and no way to pay them. I have the baby full time and can barely afford to feed and cloth her and myself, they are now taking 20 a month from me even though i do all the driving which costs me most of my weeks money and means i cant have fresh fruit for my baby each week and cant afford to feed my children properly. this deeply upsets me because he owns a well off paragliding buisness and does not need the extra 20 a month but i do and i dont eat many nights a week to ensure my baby has enough to eat and so i can see my children, i recieved a 750 bill today for meintenance from my ex and just cannot offord to pay it. I really need help to stop this being taken from me, because i have my children every other weekend and half the holidays and i dont get any money to help me pay for their food or to help pick them up. i really need help to sort this out as it is causing me so many problems when he owns his own buisness and doesnt need the benefits. Please help me figure out how to fix this. 🙁
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u got one thats with your x and one that stays with boyfriend so why does he have to pay u lol
If you’re ex husband was the one that had to pay you and was in your position you would happily take the money and would see it as he needs to provide for them, it’s 20 a month and won’t cover nothing!! So why should you not pay it? If you are struggling then my suggestion is to get a job!! This may sound harsh but you can’t not pay for your children cos of x y and z and to use the fact you have another child and struggling unfortunately that’s your problem your older 2 should not have to miss out albeit £20! If this was a father writing this by god he’d be told just as I have said and no doubt more! It’s £20 a month for 2 kids count your lucky star’s!
Totally agree Claire!
Get off your arse an go to work
Go to your MP for help as that’s what I did, but I finally had to give up my job (I’ve always worked but my ex hasn’t).They don’t count what you pay off your salary so I got no help with my rent or council tax and after they had finished taking his money off me for 2 of my kids. I didn’t even have enough to cover my rent let alone full council tax, or even money to get to my job to earn the money to pay them ? It’s all wrong and should be scrapped with a fairer system in its place. I have 2 other children at home with me and the 2 he has are slightly younger but stay with me 2 or 3 nights a week because I’m disabled and couldn’t manage all 4 of them on my own. I was told even if he was a millionaire I’d still have to pay the higher amount they took off me, which was 60% of my income. 40% for the boys plus another 20% for arrears, which they couldn’t tell me the time period it was for or how they calculated the figure ? But the strange thing about it was that I never ever missed 1 payment…work that out ?
I’m a disabled woman in the same situation as a man and I get as slated as this lady. You have no idea how hard life is in this situation and if your not able to work £20 is a big chunk off your benefits. She’s also got a baby and if she wants to stay at home and bring her up herself then she has a right to. But you do have a boyfriend, I’m assuming the baby’s dad, so why can’t he help you keep the baby from his wages or csa money and then you wouldn’t miss the mere £20 your having to pay. I pay more for my 2 voluntarily but your only paying £2.50 a week for each of your children and remember the money is for them, not your ex.
If the shoe was on the other foot. She wouldn’t think twice about not buying him a pint before shafting him for payments
You’re begrudging £2.50 a week for each child. By paying this maintenance you say you can not afford fresh fruit for your baby or to eat is ridiculous. You are obviously on benefits hence the £5 a week assessment and are probably better off than working mothers.
Wait a min if she has half custody y is she paying. 20 isn’t a lot but on benefits it is plus the fuel to run back and forward. Y can’t everyone just get alone after the split then they put csa out of business. People use csa to get back at a ex. My husband pays csa for his kids and my ex doesn’t pay for his. It’s a cruel world just have to suck it up my dear. If you were to start work they would take more off you so you in a lose lose situation be bigger person and just pay the 20