I can’t afford any of this – what do I do?
I have been paying child support to a woman I had a fling with back in 2005. I’ve been paying since the child was born in 2006. Recently I’ve been asked to pay more money, my payment have increased from £96 per month to £268 per month.
I’m also now married with another child whom live with me. I earn £2400 per month and my outgoings (bills/mortgage/debts etc) amount to £2160 leaving me with £240 with which to feed my family not to mention other costs such as fuel, clothes, school uniform etc. I simply cannot afford the £268 per month, let alone the £800 arrears I apparently owe, even though I’ve always made payments!
What on earth do I do? If I make these payments my son at home will go hungry and probably end up homeless! The child I pay for lives with her mother who is now married and living with him, the child has taken this mans last name. Is there a way to agree on lower payments with the csa.? I’ll lose everything otherwise.
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RT @CSAHell: I can’t afford any of this – what do I do?: I have been paying child support to a woman I had a fling wi… http://t.co/Sbt3Fy…
Are you sure this child is yours firstly??
If not sure ask for paternity test..
If the child is yours ask for a variation order..
RT @CSAHell: I can’t afford any of this – what do I do?: I have been paying child support to a woman I had a fling wi… http://t.co/Sbt3Fy…
The law needs to be changed and this is one reason why. Fathers do need to pay for their children but the way in which payments are worked out needs to change. Like payments are worked out after LIFE bills and taken into account first like food rent etc. Then they also needs to look at the full household income of the mother and take that into account. They need to stop taking into account working tax credits and child tax credits on the fathers side as an income also. Like this if you agree and for this to change everyone being used as a money cow needs to come together to have there vice heard. Maybe everyone wright a letter to your MP telling what’s happened to you and tell em you want how its worked out to change all on the same day lol? Its not going change by just griping about it on here.
i totally agree they are asking us to pay 35 a week plus arrears (fighting it) and we have 1200 a month a mortgage etc we have been told they can point us in the direction of a charity to feed my kids so long as we get raped for the moeny to pay a 19 year old man that is classed as a child coz he does 12 hours of colege my kids can starve literally to pay this other kid how is this supporting the kids ?????????
I think a new facebook group needs to be made with this in mind and peaceful movement. Where parents can chat and make a plan like posting letters all on the same day to your MP its like being tax by the king in the dark ages. Yes we will take all your money you need for food grow more food lol. And we take that too.
it’s not just dads it’s mums too!
Your right shelly some mums do need it but others use the money to go out on at weekend or pay off a new car why dads can’t pay there bills or killing them selfs over it.
leave the country only way u pay nothing
Keep moving around and changing jobs.
See im going to dissagree here. I have 2 wonderful children my eldest being with my ex husband. We earn just over £2000 a month pay for both children, all our rent 2 cars and the bills.. he earns £2350 a month has no other children and pays £139 a month when he feels like it (which is not often). I dont get how SOME people can not survive once they pay maintenance. All ours goes into my daughters college fund..