How much maintenance should be paid?
March 6, 2012
I have been divorced for 4 1/2 years, I have 2 children almost 13 and almost 15, their father gives me £330 a month and has been for the last year, £300 a month for a couple of years before that and £200 a monthe for ayear before that. (Approx time) I am tryimg to find out if there is a way of knowing his earnings and what he should be paying without him knowing that I will know?
Don’t know if I need a legal person to contact me to help me with this so have left it as no at the moment.
Would appreciate some advice.
Many thanks
Mrs M Lees
Written by Maria Lees · Filed Under CSA Advice
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Maria,
If you are using the CSA, they will request income information from your ex.
If you have a private arrangement with your ex, then you will be unable to obtain the info from a third party.
chall ~ afairercsaforall
How much do you want him to pay? There is pwcs on here who get nothing at all. why do you need to know his income, you are divorced, how would you feel if he wanted to nosey into your life? If you have suspicions he’s earning more and going through the csa, then you need strong evidence to suggest this. Also you haven’t said if he has a new family or if he sees his children?
Jay
I agree 100% with you here.yes indeed mrs Lees,does he have a new family to support? Have you considered that at all and you should be grateful for the money you are getting from him,and he has increased his payments each year…so stop being bloody greedy and be thankful he pays at all like some deadbeats out there.if you went down the csa road he may well resent you for that and dig his heals in and start making it difficult for you regarding money,for instance if he is self employed ? He can and probably would declare his earnings as alot less than they are and you would get very little and there’s nothing you or the csa could do about it.so count your lucky stars and keep the csa dogs out of it…they are arseholes of the lowest and care nothing about the welfare of the kids at all,they are only interested in screwing and financially raping NRP’s for as much money as they can f**k them for.the csa is unfair and totally biased against NRP’s …they normally being the fathers.
i should thank yourself lucky you get that, i wish my ex payed that. i’ve never had a penny from my ex until jan this yr thats only bcoz i got intouch with the csa and the only reason i got intouch is bcoz i ask my ex for help with school uniform in august 11, and his answer was ur not gettin a penny off me u want anythin go the csa! so thats wot i did. our 2 kids r now 18 and 12 and i’ve never asked him for anythin in that 18yrs i went out to work every day to provide for my kids, but came out of work june 11 due to ill health and operation thats the only reason i ask for help with uniform. after waitin 5month i finally got a payment from the csa. still waitin on feb’s payment of £150 for the month my 18yr old is stil in full time education and 12yr old at school, they never see there dad bcoz he just can’t be bothered, he is in a very well payed job as a maintinance electrician, has no other children, has no other out goings as he lives with his g,friend who has no children and lives on benefits. so to be honest i don’t no how the csa work payments out. so i wouldn’t complain if ur get £330 amonth from him. i’ve bin a single mum for 10 yrs and e’s only just startin to pay £150 amonth for my 2. i’ve bin to hell and back the last 6month coz e didn’t want to pay. so i would advise u thank ur lucky stars e gives u that without complainin.
I had shared care of my children. Their mother done everthing in her power to destroy my relationship just so she can get more money from me.She is very wealthy and erns a hell of a lot more than me. Due to her lies and help of the the scumbags at the CSA i am no longer in a postion to provide for my children when they are in my care and more importantly for the past 6 years their lives have been destroyed because of this. No one stops to think about the consequencs for the children or the position they are forced into by gredy people who abuse the position.
My advice to all like you, put your childrens needs first and stop being invloved in hate campaigns and trying to achive parental alienation and just accept kids needs fathers to!!!!!
At last a nice comment kids need there parent’s both of them but a lot of people walk away without a care or try to stop the other NRP seeing thier child and it’s WRONG!!! Parental responability is the order of the day every day.
The CSA is an organisation set up by morons to benefit inadequate people and I can’t believe that hard earned money is put in the hands of these incompetent idiots.
The only section of society who like them are the people who can’t get off their fat arse’s and earn their own money.
Once the child is of school age, both parents, not just the NRP should be paying an equal share as it takes both parents to make the child in the first place.
I’m sick to death of reading about pathetic individuals who think they are entitled to screw their ex just because they stayed at home, using the child as an excuse to do so.
NRP’s should support their children and I agree they’re a waster if they don’t. On the other hand, the PWC should be willing and have to chip in an equal financial share.
It takes two to make a child and begs belief why the NRP’s salary is the only thing taken into consideration when it comes to support.
It’s about time the PWC’s where looked at just as closely, made to pay their fair share and stop hiding behind innocent children like terrorists.
I know the first thing someone is going to say is “Ah but what about the rent/mortgage and Bills the PWC has to pay”. Well my answer to that is they would have it to pay anyway, child or no child.
The next thing someone will say is “Ah but they have the child all day and gave up their life for its sake”. Utter Bull, unless they deliberately wanted it that way.
This New Age attitude where children are a career for one of the parents is pathetic and anyone who follows that lifestyle should be ashamed of themselves.
If you’re going to bring children into a world of equality then you have a responsibility to make sure they understand that things have to be earned and worked for. Mummy and Daddy having to go to work, isn’t a bad thing for your child to appreciate.
Sitting at home living on hand outs from the state and support from ex partners isn’t a good life lesson to teach.
I agree with most of the posts above Mrs Lees, your children deserve to have a happy experience with both parents. Although you may be entitled to more, would extacting every penny available to your ex benefit your children?
Legally, you can ask for an assessment every 2 years. They may find that your husband should be paying less. Anyway, it’s not difficult to calculate what you husband should be paying. £5 for the first £100 pound of earnings and a percentage depending on how many children you have. Your £330 a month would equate to your ex earning about £400 take home. This is after tax and deductions and excludes any overnight says, and whether your ex is living with someone who has children etc..
Does your ex spend on his kids? Would leaving him with nothing to spend on his kids be detremental to the relationship with his kids. Mrs Lees, you’ve got a good one by the sound of it. Do you really want to rock the boat? You will get a reaction from him if you do.
I have brought my daughter up on my own for the past 12 years now CSA have finally said they have found an employer for him, should i get back pay or does this start from now.
My EX husband is a captain in the army and has payed the same money to me for 8 years. With him having so many promotions does the money for my two children stay the same? He does not pay through the CSA.
I have a 12 year son. I’m paying his mother £300 each month. I also seem to be buying him everything he needs, from the clothes on his back, school meals, trips, spending money.
This is now a private arrangement and no longer through the CSA even though they don’t seem to want to accept this.
Am I paying my sons mother too much?