How can I find out if the CSA are looking to get money from me or not?
Hi there
I hope you are well. Recently I have been contacted by my ex wife. I left her 10 years ago and we had no kids. I suspected her of cheating, packed a bag and left. We have not spoken since.
She has contact me through a third party and informed me that she had a child not long after I left and that the child is mine. I am confident that it is not, When I left I went overseas to find work and have been there ever since.
I am happy in a new relationship and have 3 children. My concern is that I have been offered a position in the UK, a well paid position and I am tempted to return.
My worry is that the ex has contacted the CSA about this child and if I come back they will look for 10 years money from me. This I cannot do as it would bankrupt my family.
How do you know if the CSA are looking for you or if she has informed them? If i go back and my national insurance number comes up I literally cannot afford to pay it if I am required to.
Any advice would be much appreciated
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First thing DNA test… Second thing there’s a new treaty which means being abroad won’t protect you from CSa anymore they will eventually catch you up wherever you are. Sort out the DNA first tho might be worrying about nothing
I would stay where you are , the job offer might b good money but if they do take from you you will b worse off anyway , I don’t think there is a way to find out what you want to know and if you contact them they will see an opportunity in it for themselves
Depends what country you are in wether csa can touch you for instance you wouldn’t have to pay if you where living in middle east or south Africa. With regards to 10 years of csa that all depends when she opened the case if she done it 6 months ago you would only have to pay for 6 months arrears I would get DNA done from where u are and take it from there if it turns out to be yours and you don’t want anything to do with him/her stay in a country which they can’t. Touch you alternatively go self employed and tell them what you want to
Ps one kid is 15% of your income regardless so I would consider other options if kid is yours csa are total rip offs
If you left the country and a claim was put in then it starts from the date that you receive the letter….as you haven’t received this letter then nothing can be assessed. If you do return and csa do contact you first thing you do is demand a dna test, they might refuse but this is your right so keep on at them. If csa try and say a claim was put in and you were assessed on an interim maintenance assessment, you can prove that you were not in the uk so hadn’t had the paperwork so deny paternity. Why has your ex decided now to put this bombshell onto you, its the child I feel sorry for so please try to think of it that way even if s/he isn’t yours. Could be her just stirring up trouble seeing as your happy with your life.
Don’t let the csa scare you and know your rights. Good luck
get DNA 1st they cant do nothing with out it . and y can take her to count to find out y it taken her these long n fight it
hi, my husband was in the same situation 2 years ago. after a one night stand 11 years ago she decided to tell my husband he had a son (9 at the time) we done a online dna and come back 99% he was. we started paying her monthly. anyways I believe that if you have proof that you didn’t know about the child for all the years you shouldn’t have to pay all those years back check up on the legal systems tho. go on the csa calculator see what you would have to pay and go from there.
hope it all works out for you 🙂