His ignorance is allowing him to evade supporting his children
I have 3 children with my ex husband who now has 2 more and a stepson living with him in his mortgaged property. He went self employed in 2010 sept and although he has worked cash in hand( evidence provided to csa) he has paid no NI stamp or tax so there is no record of his earnings.
The csa have set a default figure of payment of 50 per week and with arrears from this period and a previous seperation he now owes over 6000. He has been summoned to court twice and there is a charging order against his property. He ignored court bailiffs so they passed the case back to the csa. I am told that as there is currently no equity in his property and he has children there they can do no more as laws were changed to protect the absent parent.
How can it be right that despite being given evidence his ignorance can allow him to evade supporting his children. He can’t claim poverty if he doesn’t need to claim any benefit but can still pay his mortgage. What good does a charging order do me in helping to support my children? Please any advice? Is there any more Ivan do?
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I’m afraid all estranged men are doing this and there is nothing we can do! I think it just goes to show these men don’t live or care about their children. I take pride in the fact that I provide everything for my children (although its a terrible struggle and I can’t provide my children with all the extra things in life) but I’m proud I do it and still allow my ex full contact. One day when the children are older they will see all this for themselves and form their own opinion. Very very sad really and shame on the parents that don’t want to support their children.
I have no quams in supporting my children what so ever, however what I do hate is paying my ex wife a decent wage, £480 a month which means i have to quit my job and go on benefits, especially when she left me and I have not seen my children for 5 years and has a new partner. everyones story is different and to tarnish all estranged men the same is wrong.
CSA payments rarely get spent on the children! However they do help to support the parents lifestyle!
their more women using CSA for their own money then anything right now get knocked up move on and stop the kids seeing their dad just to get more money . even csa well tell u they have more dad moaning about not being able to be dads then mums moaning dad dont wanna pay
You can’t assume all men are the same as you can’t assume all women are ! Jill How can you possibly say your ex is estranged when he has full contact ? And the idiotic women who go on to have more children with men who fail to support or see the ones they already have need to be fkn sectioned, what do you expect ? My kids get more pocket money from their grandad than they do child support from their own father who raised them for 12 years ! It’s his loss because they are utterly amazing kids ! Given the option to actually buy uniform / winer coats instead of cash I was told to F off they were my responsibility – children have 2 parents some of them have that but others have learnt no matter how much they cry for them that other parent is a heartless irresponsible scumbag who couldn’t give a toss !
Then we have the other side the crazy unreasonable mad ex wives .
Who have £ signs for eyeballs . More of them around nowadays thanks to the CSA and their financial targets !
I don’t want to screw my ex over as he has another family to support as well and I allow him full access even though he has made no contact with them for 3 years, not even Xmas card. I’d welcome a private arrangement but he just doesn’t want to offer any support. I think women and men can be as guilty of trying to screw each other over and it’s the kids that suffer. I think if you choose to have kids you should both be prepared to support them. I don’t think csa should provide enough of an incom for the pec to not work and I would happily have the money paid into a fund for my kids to give them a start in life so that my ex knew it was going to them.