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An that’s how it should be system to soft you can’t have it both ways no contact no payment 100%
Who’s choice is it yours or his for not seen her!
Aww bless. Working 27hrs a week. Some of us “on the other side” are working 50hrs or more to pay for children we very rarely see, so you can bin that part of your little sob story.
And if him not having contact is down to you, then you should waive your right to any money off him. If you feel your daughter can live without him, then you can live without his money.
You need to elaborate as to who’s decision it is that there is no contact.
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He is obliged to maintain his child, 50% of the cost would be fair, I suggest you negotiate a mutually agreeable amount, rather than having the CSA steal most of his wages
last time I saw my youngest, he was 6, he’s 18 1/2 now still paying for him , i’m just a cash machine for a wicked woman who took him away, refused to give me a contact address or details.
You don’t pay to see ur children!!
He is responsible so yes…mutal arrangement better than csa tho.
why is it that men assume they are the victims what if he is being a typical man and just walking away from his child because one he can’t be arsed two he is a selfish git or three has a new missus who is jealous of a child he sounds like a proper dick and your child is better off without him
Why do woman presume they are wonderful mothers and the kids are better off with them!
I know more woman who prevent contact then absent fathers.
What’s a typical man Ms Horton !!
the typical man on here wants to see their kids.
This isn’t a site to bash men this is a site to support them in their fight against unreasonable woman !
I came to this group to get some advice and almost every day i see us mums being blamed for stopping contact and wanting more money etc……….we actually are NOT all the same some of us tried to have contact for their child to no their father but has it thrown bk in the childs face with the excuse being sorry hen my other kids i live with now are more important!and as for were only out for money I personally have only ever expected him to pay what hes been told by csa which might i add isnt much a wk but hes her father and should pay something towards her upbringing afterall he helped create her when we were in a relationship.Some of us actually arent the bad1s as mothers and no im not the “perfect” mother but i do my absolute best for my daughter and am sick of hearing oh the dads are always the victims yes some are being treated awful and it is a shame for them if they are genuinely trying to see their kids and provide for them but dont tar all us pwc with the same brush some of us do actualy care how our kids feel and that theyd love to have their dad around but i cant make that happen!
ok let start with the simple fact. any child has a right to see his dad. That s the law. Every father has to support their child. This is the law. simple facts.
However at the end of the day if either party breaks the law they get whats coming. thats my view Mothers who do not allow a child to see their dad are breaking the law S1 childrens act 1989
Dads who do not pay for their children break are breaking the law S1 Child support act. 1991
So to the problem at hand: whether he sees the child or not he has an obligation to pay. If however there are issues between you like he is not allowed to see his child then you will understand that he wont pay. As Gray stated it is not clear whose decision this is or why. I will strongly suggest that you have no issue more important than the child and you talk it out..
So the answer is yes your child is entitled to maintenance. Going to the CSA will be a waste of time so I suggest that you speak to the childs parent as suggested by Helen Milton
Now to Anne Marie: lets be real that was a pretty nasty comment. in the form of a passive aggressive statement. but you are wrong anyway. Some mums and i Stress not all mums use the child as a form of black mail. Pay me or u dont see your child. Shouldnt happen but it does. I am sure you will agree that mothers like that shoudnt have children and belong behind bars. I will draw your attention to Sally Armstrong and more pertinently Perry Taylors comment and think about this on Christmas morning while you enjoy christmas with your child/ren.