Happy to pay but a reasonable amount
I have had a terrible time for years. I have an ex partner who is a tyrant for my money, she admits and believes she has a right to my finances and boy does she love it! the csa are right behind her as well. she has the csa review my finances through my payslips regularly, i cannot understand how she needs so much money when there is 2 full time wages in her home. oh i do know , shes a money grabber, a 11 year old needs 544 pounds a month apparantly.
I recently stepped down from my job because of it all, i do see my daughter regularly which is great, me ex knows i work hard and with the csa help she earns from it! for years know ive lived like this never being able to run my own home, had to scrimp on my wedding because she would have went to the csa and ended up with more money! the csa dont allow me to act on the income of the resident house but as soon as i get a payrise the resident parent gets a field day! all i wish is that this was realistic, i contribute more to their house than i can to my own.
Please someone fix this! I’m happy to pay but pay in a way where its reasonable and not by a mother and an organistaion hell bent on extracting as my from people as they can regardless of how much income they have my sister and i used to laugh when it was my payday as my ex and her husband would book things for there wedding on the same day!
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Totaly agree. I dont mind paying but i want it to be a reasonable amount. The current CS2 system says i should pay between £55 to £60 a week. At top end this equals £260 or £3120 a year. I would be happy with this. However i am on CS1 which means i have to pay £100 a week which equals £433 a month or £5200 a year.
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Yes this is a fucking shit system that serves the PWC Only,the NRP is just screwed and screwd.how indeed is it fair that the resident home is never scrutinised despite the mother working and her partner working and clearly not needing so much cash.and yet if I have a pay rise I’m milked for even more cash for the greedy bitch.
It’s so so wrong.my ex could be with a multi millianare and that don’t matter….the fucking csa still want to fuck you, and if I meet a new partner and they get wind of it? They will take a portion of her salary as well…HOW the FUCKING HELL is that fair? It’s fucking staggering that these bastards can get away with it.
It’s true,alot of these mothers use the kids as cash cows and they love it…easy money lol. I’m robbed of £320 each month for 1 child who’s bitch mother took away from me at 3 yrs old for another man she met on the Internet and after just 9 months married lol…..this is my reward ,being shafted by her and this scum called the csa. There’s no way that bitch spends nearly £80 a week on my daughter.whats worse is I am not allowed to know what it’s spent on and neither do the csa give a shit what it’s spent on….so much for them caring about the welfare of the child lol….indeed we all know it has nothing to do with the kids welfare…it’s another form of tax disguised as a system to support and provide for the kids.Its bollocks…it serves only 2 purposes,make the mother a little richer and help the treasury claw back some of the hard working tax payers cash that it hands out to lazy bastards and benefit cheats and single mothers who fall pregnant just to get a free meal ticket for life along with masses of cash from the fathers via the csa.it fucking stinks.
Terry.. Agree with you a 100 %. The CSA has totally drained me. When I get some energy and enthusiasm back, will write my horror story.
I’m sorry to hear of your problems and i have had a similar experience. Does you employer allow salary sacrifice to your pension (some employers allow salary sacrifice for other benefits such as private health care and even company cars and train season tickets)? If yes, any amount you salary sacrifice will not count towards the CSA calculation. Don’t go over the top with it as you risk being accussed of avoidance and you won’t be able to eat but there is a very fine line between aoidance and retirement planning. If you do this you will pay less to the CSA, you will also have less in your pocket but a decent retirement when all of this is behind you. In my experience a lot of employees have salary sacrifice available but don’t use it. If your employer doesn’t allow it then ask why. Your employer saves their 13.8% Employers’ National Insurance on any payment you make so it is in their interests too.