Found out I have a daughter – how do I tell my fiancée?

December 20, 2010

I too found out recently that I have a 4 year old daughter I knew nothing about, I have already got 2 children from a failed marriage and I am also expecting a child with my fiancee.

I am at my wits end, the CSA have been of no help what-so-ever, I have no idea how I am going to make ends meet with this. And to top it off it turns out th CSA idiots had messed things up yet again and had not taken into account my 2nd child with my ex wife. I am now looking at approx. £300 a month going straight out of my earnings which is accept I have to pay but when I said to the person at the CSA is there any help they can reccommend with financial issues as I also have to pay £475 a month rent (inc. bills) and £360 a month in loan repayments their response was ‘you’ll just have to work it out for yourself, its not our problem you got into this’!!

I have no idea how to deal with this and feel like I am slowly losing it, I have not told my finacee yet about this new development as I wanted to see some sort of official paperwork first. I think I am just scared at how she and other familiy members will react but its making me sick…….


  • brokenfather says:

    It’s hardly your fault if the mother chose not to tell you about the child.

    Do insist on a DNA test via the CSA. Do not believe the mother without proof.

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