Father not supporting his children

I have supported my children single handedly for over ten years. My ex husband does not contribute in any way through his own choice as we do not live in a castle surrounded by Mines! Therefore he could visit or phone or knock on our front door. He spends a huge amount of time enjoying the fact that he doesn’t pay. When he phones twice a year the children say “he’s in the pub again mum, we can hear glasses chinking”. This year he went full out and phoned one of the children on Father’s day, apt, except that his message on their answerphone was a little reminder that he existed and could they call him as it was Father’s day. You have to cringe at the low intelligence. I felt compelled to write tonight as in one of my children’s birthday cards he had written that he’d tried to contact them on a popular social website, but it didn’t work!

My beautiful intelligent child along with millions of other users knows that this is a large lie, especially as their father is down as a friend! My other beautiful intelligent child has just seen a picture of his father on his profile page who is dressed as an ageing mad max with bike chains round his wrists and a skirt! clinging to someone who looks like a bleached Elvira and supports all his decisions not to support his own children. His reaction is to shake his beautiful head with embarrassment, laugh and switch over to a popular games station.

On the whole we have a good life, I work full time, have a mortgage on a lovely home which I might add I saved for and paid a deposit for 6 years after their fathers departure with all our money. We have a small holiday every year and live in Essex. Their father chose to settle in Kent and lives with a new wife in benefit heaven because he is unable to hold a job for any length of time due to a disability that is hard to prove-Laziness! His weekly decisions include which pub to go to and what line do I give to the CSA next? or what bike chain do I wear today??. The CSA have tried to use all their enforcements but can’t follow them through because you are not allowed to proscecute benefit claimants-unless their defrauding the state of course. If you are defrauding your children then The Member of Parliament for Essex or Kent may support you. I’m not ecstatic that I’m helping support the CSA with my taxes and National Insurance payments and I hope that one day this sham of an agency is abolished. I am incredibly proud of my two beautiful babies and extremely pleased that their father left especially now that he is wearing a skirt and growing three beards!

Shame on all those in government and Parliament and our legal system who now support the scroungers and not the achievers.