Ex wife took nearly everything and now has CSA going after the rest
I got divorced in Aug 2006. The court order said that I was to pay £330 maintenance for my boys, the aged 3 and 8, this was aprivate agreement. it also said that I was to have access.
At the time I was advised to go bankrupt due to the debts accrued trying to sustain my exes extravagence. By the time the divorce was finished, I had debts of nearly £70k.I sofa surfed for 6 months in order to leave her.
My share of the house gave my £46k, my parents lent me the remainderto pay off creditors-I have no hope of paying them back. I have not seen my boys since November 2006 due to my exes obstructive behaviour.I have been taking antidepressants ever since. Despite my income gradually decreasing I continued to pay the money. However, last February, I contacted my ex for the first time in 6 years as I wanted to chat about access and me having difficulty with payments.No reply.
December the CSA got in touch, I have been helpful but they have rewarded me with demands for money I simply cannot pay, harrassing telephone calls, no understanding for my situation.
My ex wife took the majority of the profit in our house and has blown the lot on her extravagent lifestyle and has got the CSA involved to harrass me once more. Disgusted
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This is what I despise…exes using this evil agency as an abusive tool to vindicate and ruin nrp’s to suit their twisted mindset. My ex did the same with me, and also not allowed to see my child. Csa should take every case individually to assess payments so that one could actually AFFORD to go to work, and LIVE aswell as pay child SUPPORT (I say support because the figures nrps get landed with are not supportal sums). This one size fucks all [nrps] approach will send many nrp’s to the dole que if theyre lucky, and to the CCJ court or county jail if the arrears come to some ridiculous amount.
As if you havent been through enough….
Karma, cause and effect….would like to see some of that
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Totally agree Carol. Each case should be assessed individually. The one size fits all is the lazy way of administering child maintenance. It matters not one bit to the CSA if fathers lose their homes. have to cope with bailiffs and in extreme cases, even take their own lives.. What a way to run a business and what a way for an elected Government to behave.
I can see how nrp’s look at a bottle of pills and toy with the idea….I bet all of us going through our own cases with the csa have thought, just wondered….because the sense of loss and hopelessness that comes with totting figures and calculations, and going without on many basics, STILL doesnt make ends meet.
Many of us were played by our exes, I know I was, and I just want to move on. I have in essence made my life better just because hes not in it, and I am so glad about that despite losing my child (intially forced and now acceptance in letting go completely)
Do I/we not deserve to be able to work? Because thats the bottom line here. We are not given any leeway with essentials. Inflation rises? …oh tough shit.
I wouldnt blame many nrp’s reducing hours, or going self employed, or even going on the dole simply because of the way nrp’s living costs and needs to continue working are shunted with no consideration.
At moment Im spoken to nicely by the csa, but the result is the same. They say they understand that nrp’s need to live, but then take so much away that I actually cant…. (and get told to move a man in to make up deficit) I mean wtf?
When we are dealing with poverty like this, all thoughts and hopes of contact with our children are way way way in the distance, because even if allowed to see them, I doubt many could afford to, even with the variations allocated.
Why is such a draconian agency allowed to continue operating like this? cant they see they are also hurting their revenue if all nrp’s are forced out of work?
It is a business, but hopefully one where it will self defeat itself
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Unfortunatly reading the posts on here this seems the norm, nasty vicous ex wives/partners taking everything they can financially from there ex,s to live it up, yes i know kids cost money i have 2 but i would never dream of taking what my ex couldt afford, thats what the calculator is there for maybe some people should use it, instead of living beyond there means and expecting others to foot the bill, The CSA needs closing and the people who work there need to realise not all men are cash cows or walking banks,
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well said lisa.