Ex wants to see me on the street
My son decided to go and live with his father. As he was 15 yrs of age I had no say in the matter, I was verbally abused for years and despite being divorced since last dec and sep for over two years am still trying to deal with the emotions.
My ex has decided that he won’t be happy till I am out on the street and pot less and is doing his hardest to try and do that. He tells the CSA that I don’t have my son at all and I am fighting that with them at the mo.
I had a letter this morning to tell me that the CSA will be taking £368.88 from my wages next month for my son and arrears. Only of 2 months while this is being set up yep I only earn just over £500. Whilst I would willingly pay for my son yet I begrudge it going to his dad who uses it for holidays etc.
Him and his girlfriend he lives with earn roughly £90,000. I earn £6,000. I am on my own and disabled. I’m sorry but would rather kill myself than give him the satisfaction of knowing that he can still bully me from a distance.
I absolutely hate the CSA for what they are putting me through. Thanks to them when I have my son I can’t really afford to feed him as his father doesn’t give me any money back for that time. So they are giving my ex the power to keep on attacking me from a distance !!!!!
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I feel very sorry for what you are going through right now. When dealing with the csa dont do anything over the phone, keep everything written and send it recorded delivery, keep the receipts, make a note of the day you get a response. The csa should not be taking so much from you but they will find a way to ‘justify’ it. Get your local MP involved, make a formal complaint, start an appeal. I’m sure there must be some way to prove your child stays with you. Dont despair and good luck.
Your employer should be aware that they cannot deduct more than 40% of your net income for the CSA. This should be £200. Two months arrears should be £150 assuming your assessment is 15% of £500.
Tracey,
The CSA should leave you with at least 60% of your income. Do you receive any other income apart from the wages you have stated?
How often does your son stay with you?
Only over night shared care, for a least 52 nights a year, is taken into consideration for a reduction.
chall ~ afairercsaforall
Ex wants to see me on the street
September 30, 2012
I had a letter this morning to tell me that the CSA will be taking £368.88 from my wages next month for my son and arrears. Only of 2 months while this is being set up yep I only earn just over £500.
My assessment started in swptember 2006 when I started work (was a pwc prior to that with no csa help despite ex working) at a rate of 68pw based on an income of just over £200pm which was based on my xmas bonus pay. A deo was applied with no notice to me, deductions started in july 2007 and each week the amount went up (for arrears) until a figure of £118pw was being taken from a take home pay of apx £175pw. I of course gave up my job. Csa were informed by jobcentre, employer and myself via phone call, (and in writing which they claim not to have had) but the csa kept assessing me. I didnt work but started a uni course and my new partner supported me for the next few years. The csa assessment continued and they now want £16,000 even though I was not working and they knew I was not working. Now they are trying to take my house.
These people are not ‘fair’, they dont care about your life or how their actions destroy people, in fact they have probably done more harm to the economy than the money they have collected. My point is dont despair, keep fighting, its better to go down fighting than just go down, and you never know, if they make a slip up and you are still in the ring you have a chance. Many of us have been (and still are) where you are now so you are not alone. I no longer think of the csa as human, to me they are the lowest form of scum on the planet but my anger just makes me stronger. Things change, just keep fighting. (its currently cost the csa more than I owe and I’m still fighting them)
As others have said make sure your employer knows what they are doing. Your employer cannot leave you with less than 60% of your salary.
My partner had the same where the CSA thought he was earning more than he was and the DEO was incorrect. We had to argue with the employer at one point as they didn’t understand the DEO.
CSA are not fair and only look at your income if you are on CSA2 and not the affordability of the pwc. As J has mentioned complain and get the help of your MP.