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Ex wants to pay less after he found out I have a boyfriend

April 2, 2013

My husband and I share three children and after his affair are getting divorced.

He lives with his mistress in a rented house and I live alone with my three children. He earns £300 pus per day and his mistress works full time. He see’s the kids every other weekend and has them for 2 hours every week.

I am a full time student and am living in our family home. My ex pays me £620 per month as we agreed this amicably, he is self employed and I knew he woul not admit his real earnings, I pay all the bills and the mortgage. I’ve been seeing someone for six months and have been thinking about moving in together.

Once I made this clear to my ex he wants to pay less. Any advise would be very much appreciated thank you.

Written by Sarah Birks · Filed Under CSA Advice 

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8 Responses to “Ex wants to pay less after he found out I have a boyfriend”

  1. Duncan Smith on April 2nd, 2013 10:42 am

    my advice is fuck off you greedy money grabbing skank

  2. Peter Brown on April 2nd, 2013 12:32 pm

    I am sorry, but you will receive harsh replies from the people on here, because every last one of the folk here have been dealt a bad hand by the CSA SCUM, we have so many stories of the PWC using children and the CSA as a weapon against the NRP to cause them as much harassment and grief as possible, myself included, so, sorry no sympathy here either for you.

  3. carol on April 2nd, 2013 8:30 pm

    @Duncan Smith….sorry but your comment was DISGUSTING

    If anything, her ex was the skank as he did the cheating., They came to an AGREEMENT with regards to maintenance,

    OK, OP…your ex does have a point…a new man will be taking over as responsible male parent figure, and with extra income into the house, things should fairly change in respect of this new circumstance. I would hate to be paying the same to my ex knowing my ex had taken in a new mother to my child but I have to fund their lifestyle whilst having someone take over my day to day mothering 🙁

    I know thats not what you want to hear, but thats what adults do, they take responsibility for all they do which in your case a new father figure is entering your home, replacing the real fathers role and so your new boyfriend should take on your children under his wing, including the bills that come from you all living as a family.

    I personally would prefer that as I wouldnt want money from a lying cheating twat tbh

  4. Lisa on April 2nd, 2013 9:19 pm

    To be fair Carol i think the point here is the guy is paying a huge amount anyway, In fairness the OP has answered her own question, her ex was paying until she decided she wanted to move her boyfriend in, if that was me i would feel cheeky asking for that much, her boyfriend is also going to be hleping spend that money, which NRP in the right mind would say yeah course i will give you whatever you ask for,
    Doesnt make sense really, She needs to stand on her own 2 feet and stop expecting her ex to foot the bill for her now new relationship, its not very fair,

  5. Amanda Johnson on April 3rd, 2013 3:42 am

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/csathelawanditsfailings/ try this page all you will get on here is abuse

  6. carol on April 3rd, 2013 2:11 pm

    Sorry lisa but telling someone to fuck off and calling them such names, is not called for, especially as this amount was agreed amicably. Whether we think it extortionate is not the point, nor our business in truth, it may be guilt whatever…but calling someone a skank, when she was cheated on, says more about peter than it does about the OP imho

    As you see in my post I do mention that she should not expect the payments to be the same seeing as her bf will taking her and kids on.

  7. carol on April 3rd, 2013 2:12 pm

    I meant Duncan Smith not Peter, apols…

  8. Jack Blackenwhite on June 4th, 2013 9:30 pm

    Wow, isn’t it great that you can use your kids as little gold mines. Work and pay your own way. If your ex wants to provide financial assistance for the children you should be grateful for that. Now that you have a new boyfriend it’s time to let go and shoulder more responsibility and the new boyfriend can help with that. I hope your ex does lower the amount “you” get.

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