Ex tries hard not to pay
I’m at the end of the road with this and really do not no what to do .my case started in Dec I told them all about my kids dad using a umbrella company.
Basically declares two hundred and fifty pound a wk and gets around five hundred a wk in expenses,of this I have proof .yeti get offered 28 a wk for all three children.
I have been told there’s nothing they can do it will mean they are taking on a big company when they are only the middle man.then I was told I was sent a variation form that was last dec I’m still waiting I’ve put loads of complains in yet they have not been noted.
He’s now gone direct pay and guess what he has not paid yet they have to give him five days .. I have a molestation order on there father as his abusive and violent …. He asked for direct pay to avoid costs yet I still have no money in a single mum of three and I’m desperate to get my kids what they are entitled too.
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@CSAHell sounds like a role model to me. learned how not to be screwed by the system. Trying being nice to him, he might pay then
Another money grabbing cow.
Expenses are not taxable income, you can’t have any of that you greedy twatwaffle.
Another sperm donor denying his kids money!
^^ ah god money grabbing cow?! If you have a child you pay for it! Bloody simple!!!! Put a condom on if you then want to whinge about paying maintenance!!!! 10pounds a week for each child? Bloody disgusting!! I get nothing a week because my ex thinks I’m a money grabber? I work full time and he’s never even bought her school stuff or offered to! A year without maintenance and I still let the stupid arse see my daughter when he can be bothered. I hate it when men use this thing about us being money grabbers! It’s called responsibility! You have kids and you pay…simple as! If you don’t want the maintenance cost,don’t have sex without using precautions.i get that some women are different and do just want money but that’s not the case for all mothers! I’m a bloody good mam and I work hard for what she gets but I hate the fact he doesn’t contribute. It’s called priorities …if he can afford nights out and new cars then why not for his daughter! Even 30a week for just her when I was getting it,is a kick in the teeth,to what Is pulled out each week
There is no entitlement to anything, if your ex is working he is doing that out of his own free will. How he chooses to structure that is his choice, if he was in a relationship with you there would be no rules about how much and when he had to provide so why would you think there is after the end of the relationship. As someone else said try being nice to him and maybe you’ll get the money you want from him.
Cheryl you chose to have the child with a useless father so why complain now that you’re not getting the amount of money you believe you deserve? I suggest that you take greater precautions with your own contraception when sleeping with a “stupid arse”. Your bad choice in character brought it on yourself and your daughter.
Jeni I pay over £500 a month to a child I’m denied access too, every month, never missed a payment. I also raise another man’s child and one of my together with zero contribution from his biological father.
A “sperm doner” I am not, fuck you very much.
Well it didn’t smart arse because he was a good dad all until I decided I was bored and moved out. I found a new partner and that’s why he chooses not to pay now. When you both have a child. You both agree to take on a baby and make a promise youl always provide for them! Some men don’t know the meaning. At least I can keep my head held high and say I’ve done my bit. Not saying all men are the same because some women are just as pathetic. I don’t agree with calling women “money grabbers”…like I say I’m barely a money grabber because I get no bloody money to start of with and if you read properly youl see I work full time to support.any man who decides to whinge about maintenance is a useless father in my eyes and shouldn’t be allowed to see their kids if they don’t provide for them. Clearly just an uptight little man, that has a real grudge that men need to pay . Boohoo!
So you leave, move in with a new man, have two wages supporting the household but you’re on here moaning about a third lot of money you don’t get from your ex?
Why are you even bothered, get on with your life.
I’m not uptight and I probably pay more towards my children than you earn love.
Cheryl smith…
So you think it’s ok for a women to purposely stop the child seeing there father for capital gain….????…… Really….????? A child has a right to see and be with both parents, but yet the mother is rewarded with extra payments when the stop the child seeing the father…..!?!?!?!?…… Trust me, I pay a fair wack of my income to help to look after my kids, and I’m in the middle of a court case against there mother for being obstructive in accesses, and the only reason she is being obstructive is that she is in fact ‘A money grabbing cow’….by the sound of things you only see the side of the women. Some women stop the kids just as a way of hurting the father and also a way of getting more money…….not all men are the ‘bad’ ones and not all men ‘winge’ about paying there mantance, most of us just want it to be fair………which we all know the system is not…..Ben wisken drag her through the courts and get your self some justice…….
Cheryl smith…
So you think it’s ok for a women to purposely stop the child seeing there father for capital gain….????…… Really….????? A child has a right to see and be with both parents, but yet the mother is rewarded with extra payments when the stop the child seeing the father…..!?!?!?!?…… Trust me, I pay a fair wack of my income to help to look after my kids, and I’m in the middle of a court case against there mother for being obstructive in accesses, and the only reason she is being obstructive is that she is in fact ‘A money grabbing cow’….by the sound of things you only see the side of the women. Some women stop the kids just as a way of hurting the father and also a way of getting more money…….not all men are the ‘bad’ ones and not all men ‘winge’ about paying there mantance, most of us just want it to be fair………which we all know the system is not…..Ben wisken drag her through the courts and get your self some justice…….
Hahaha well boys if u both read it properly I don’t stop contact! Although I should! … Because he’s a useless sack.Despite if there’s two incomes the real father should be paying his bit towards the child. Like I said,barely a money grabber when he pays no money! And I work full time! He comes and goes when he pleases and told me he’d switch jobs of csa caught up with him. Are all you men stupid? 1.read what I said properly! 2.pay child maintenance without crying about it. 3.you all shouldn’t be allowed to breed again for the amount of whinging.You all clearly have no idea how much it costs to raise a child and make sure they have the best of everything.csa shouldn’t even be involved in most cases because you lot should be willing to pay for your kids. Pay for your children or wear a condom if you then want to cry about paying the mother money! You should start thinking for your child’s upbringing than cheap shots at getting to the mother. Not all women are money grabbers.i don’t need to be…I just think it’s a responsibility to pay towards your child if you have one. Good boyssss
@Cheryl Smith…how about keeping your legs closed ??? hows it always the blokes fault for not putting a coat on it or keeping it in his pants….And are you stupid ? you talk shit.. fathers have no issue paying IF the money went to the kids and NOT to the mother to do with what she wants. And you talk bollocks about how much it cost to bring up a child when the mother, 9 times out of 10 gets shit loads of other benefits, in a lot of cases, you ex’s are with working partners, as is my ex AND she works as well. and I am milked of £300 each month for a daughter taken from me because her mum couldn’t keep her legs closed to other cocks….lol
As far as im concerned, women that shit on their men and boot them out of his family, deserve fuck all from him, why the fuck should I pay for the day to day upbringing of a daughter who does not live with me, taken from me, that responsibility is my ex’s and her lovers now…not the fuck mine. I WOULD happily give my daughter whatever she wanted if I was given the chance. but since im forcibly robbed by this fucking agency to hand over my hard earned cash to a fucking woman who can do with it whatever she wants, and she sure as hell don’t spend £300 a month on my daughter. saw her once this yr in 2 yrs and she stank, greasy hair and her clothes looked like Oxfam brought. Fucking bitch is what my ex is like so many others like her, use the ex as a ATM machine and the kids as cash cows.
When I can decide what I spend my money on for my child and see that she gets ALL of it…then I might change my attitude, until then this shite house agency and the ex’s that exploit its unfair,unjust method of robbing dads….can fuck off!!
Gonk
Wow “try being nice to him and he might pay” ?? seriously? Shannon should be nice to her ex when there is a non molestation order against him for being abusive and violent?
My god u men really r a class act and as for the women who wrote keep ur legs closed ur a man in drag surly u disgusting human,listen I understand some women do play games with kids I started csa shit because I was sick of being blackmailed over money ,my ex left as I would not abort our third child and then hooked up with a bird that actually left her child I’m currently in recipt of 28 pound a wk for all three boys not each which is vial as he earns 700 a wk but to be honest he puts more up his nose ….. She can have him but I do want what my three boys r worth. I feel sorry for men that do work hard and pay for there kids and the mother stops visits ….. That’s shamefull ….. I’m no money grabber just think 28 pound is unfair my ex is violent and abusive I cant be nice or reason with him …..
My opinion the csa need to help the good dads who do give a toss and execute the tossers that don’t wanna bother……as for silly women who don’t want to spend every penny they get on there kids well u deserve the shite 28 pound I’m being offered …… Tight fuckers ….
I am seriously getting annoyed this csa shit,after requesting yet another variation form sending the evidence of extra income,guess what ….. They have lost it fucking useless people what now ….. How do I sort this