Ex threatens to go to court for access so he doesn’t have to pay CSA
My ex partner left me while AI was pregnant and went back to live with his wife that he left 4 years earlier. I went to CSA for paymenys he was supposed to pay £60 p/w then £45 then £27 and now £17 as yet I have had nothing from him. Every time they set a target he says his employers have reduced his hours.
This is untrue he is working the same hours but his employers are fraudulently changing his wage slips and paying him cash in hand to make up his wages. His wife has 3 other children as well as one of his own, both he and his wife work and yet they keep reducing his payments. I on the otherhand anm left a single parent with maternity pay only while he is telliung lies to the CSA and going on holidays abroad.
I have received no payment from him and now he is threatening to take me to court to get access to our daughter 3 nights a week so he doesnt have to pay anymoney to the CSA. She is a premature baby and is 17 weeks old as yet she is still in hospital and I have never had her home, he has seen her 4 times since she has been born. The whole system is unfair he is using his money to pay for his wifes 3 kids which arent his and getting away without paying me anything for my daughter.
I have contacted the tax office regarding his employer but they have been paying cash in hand to employees for years and getting away with it. The CSA seem to be having the wool pulled over their eyes his wfie has had £22k in 10 years for the kids she had with another man and yet I get nothing!!
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You made your bed now make the best of what u got, get on with it like the rest of us!!
You say your child is 17 weeks old and still in hospital, sounds like he/she must be quite poorly still. Im surprised you have had the time to go all the trouble of communicating so much with the CSA and analysing your exs every waking moment. Such as the hours he works on a daily basis, and the amount he and his wife are living off.
I have been in the situation where my ex paid me not a single penny for the upbringing of my two eldest children. I had the treat of “If you go to the CSA I will just quit my job and go on the dole” Do you know what I did, I brought my kids up without asking for help. I worked every spare hour I could to get things for my kids. My kids never did without and they respect me, they also both work hard themselves and at 21 and 23, neither of them think that having children is a sure way to easy money for doing little or no work. Having Children is for love and for life, they are not cash pits and bargaining tools. If your ex is taking you to court and you can prove you are a loving mother, who cares first most about the health and welfare of your child, you should have nothing to worry about, should you.
It seems that you are very bitter with your ex. At the end of the day he will have to pay something, it might take 6 months or 12 months to sort out. The CSA will either put him on the breadline to help you out or you will have to make the best of what you have got as Sarah says.
As a NRP’s wife and a PWC I cannot believe that you think she should go it alone and stop chasing CS.It took 2 to make this child and I dont think £17.00 per week is going to break this mans wallet.As a NRP’s wife we are paying 4 x this amount to the ex wife for a nearly 19 year old daughter each week, and as a PWC I get nothing for my son from his father,therefore my husband is paying for two children.If the child is still in hospital then the mother is paying for transport to and from the hospital and is either on maternity leave or not working.Yes this man should be paying CS and I would advice that she continues asking for this childs money.This lady states that her ex has 3 stepkids and that the mother is getting CS so will not be on the breadline.
In response to sarah Briers & Louise’s comments; The OP’s ex has also made his bed and will have to get on with it!!
Firstly Teresa, I’m sorry to hear your DD was premature and is still in hospital.
It must be an incredibly worrying time for you and your family, and I hope she is soon able to be at home with you.
I echo Alice, your child’s father is liable to pay maintenance for your daughter.
At present the rules state that any CTC the household receives and WTC if he is the highest earner (split 50/50 if he and his partner earn the same) are also deemed as his income. You may need to enquire if such has been included in the calculation.
The CSA will not investigate ‘cash in hand’.
However, if the Tax office do get a positive result it could be taken into consideration at a later date.
It can sometimes take a while for the CSA to secure payments from a NRP. During this period arrears will be accruing. If a NRP is non compliant the agency will attempt to impose a Deduction of Earnings, if this fails once the arrears hit £2k ish they can take action through the courts.
On present rules, you ex will still be liable to pay some maintenance, even a court granted that your DD should stay with him 3 nights a week. Judges can be an odd breed – making an effort to visit an ill child 4 times in 17 weeks may raise an eyebrow or two.
If you feel the CSA are dragging their heels, you should escalate your case to an official, clearly marked complaint. Keep copies of your correspondence, post signed for and copy in your local MP, asking for their assistance.
chall ~ afairercsaforall
Completely agree with Chall!!
As for the rest of you, you seem to throw the word bitter around quite easily- I wonder why??…..
People are coming on here to voice their frustrations- no matter what the circumstances an NRP should be financially supporting their children!!
Theresa, please seek the advice of a solicitor, and make sure that any correspondence is sent to them. Should your ex contact you, simply reply with the name, number and address of your solicitor- and nothing more.
If he is such a dedicated father he should have no trouble contacting them. In my own experience, threats of custody etc seem to die off quickly.
As I wrote earlier, I completely agree with chall- I escalated my case with my local MP, and I had the CSA falling over themselves to help me resolve my case.
I hope your baby is on the mend, and that you can take some positive advice from this.
Take care. N.