Ex takes money just to ruin me

January 1, 2013

I feel like i am banging my head against the wall. My wife divorced me last year and said when i moved out she would not expect me to pay maintenance as she knew the rent is expensive in this area. I am in a low paid job and am paying about 60% of my income in rent. I also have to pay electricity, phone, car insurance and run the car to get to work, plus council tax. On top of this i have to feed myself.

Guess what she takes nearly £200 of me thru the csa. I have told them on a number of occasions i simply can’t afford that much. But all they say is “the law says”. Some days i go without meals and am suffering with depression. I have even contemplated suicide. Talking to the ex the reply i get is “i cannot care if you end up homeless”

She has also stated she is taking the money purely to ruin me. She has money having paid out for a 2nd hand car, been on holiday and soends money like its going out of fashion.

I never did anything bad to the ex to deserve this treatment.

What can i do? I am on the verge of a complete breakdown.


  • chall says:


    Does the monthly amount you pay include any arrears from the initial period, whilst the CSA were calculating your liability?

    Have you checked your CS liability is correct?

    Depending on your circumstances, you may be able to get some fianicial assistance


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