Ex stopped payments
Please help me!! i am a mother of 3 and finding it very hard getting regular money from the father of my children.
Again the CSA rang me yesterday to tell me my payments would stop the second time in 12 months. I am at my wits end, the CSA don’t appear to want to help at all and just say it will take 3-4 months to recalulate/resolve. i understand there are procedures/policy that they work to but how do they expect me to feed the children and keep them warm well their “daddy” doesn’t pay for 3/4 months but then can justify giving the children contract phones, gym members expensive holidays abroad.
I have been down their complaints procedure 12 months ago and they passed me from pillar to post not resolving anything and now i am back here again being told that payments will stop.
How is this fair?
How is a mother expected to feed her children? please help i am desparate. I am unable to afford a legal advice so will not leave my number
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Unfortunately this is common.
You can only go through the complaints procedure – everything in writing, by recorded delivery, go to your MP, go to ICE (Independent Case Examiner) please join the facebook groups Child Support Agencies Failings and others. Good Luck
Unfortunately this is common.
You can only go through the complaints procedure – everything in writing, by recorded delivery, go to your MP, go to ICE (Independent Case Examiner) please join the facebook groups Child Support Agencies Failings and others for advice and support. Good Luck
Does you ex have shared care? if so, surely its better that at least one parent is able to provide for their children than two? and if, you are struggling finiacialy then why not get a job(s)? to support you children than rely on your ex? that way both of you will be in a position to provide and support you children? rather than you making your ex unable to provide for his kids and you being the one who is able to offer what he is giving them. If you go down that route there are no winners and ultimatley it will be the children who sufer the most?
I agree with James
Why are you relying on your ex ? Surely that’s a very fragile basis to expect to earn a living for you and your kids.Do something positive and have some self respect.
Don’t be one of these mothers that expect the ex to support you for years to come.
Get a job . You mention very little about your situation ,as James said,do you have shared care? Because if you do? Why should he be paying you? You both should be sharing the financial burden.this is what’s soooo wrong about this system,the father is screwed senseless for money and the mother gets away without paying a penny.” hand over all your cash….I don’t need it because I have a wealthy partner that sees to all the kids needs,but I’m entitled to milk you dry for years along with your new partner’s salary because the csa say so” ……how the FUCK is that fair ??????
I work fulltime juggle child care,
school runs etc because their dad won’t help,
if he did that would be very different. Not
all dad’s are like you Terry. The CSA are
very unfair!! How is it fair that I have to
Wait 3 months+ for him to support his kids well
The CSA re-assess his wages for the upteenth time?.
I don’t want him to support me (never has he).
Why should he get away with not supporting
His children?
I don’t have a new partner or would I expect
Another man to support my children…. TERRY
you should want to support your children
And not leave it to another man, sounds like
you have a big chip on your shoulders.
Men who don’t share the financial burden should
be named and shamed! kids will have very
Little respect for their dad’s.