Ex refuses to keep payments up to date

July 28, 2011

My main concern about the useless CSA is that I brought my case to them and from then on they have failed to contact me or hear any of my complaints. They continue to treat this useless father as there client, they never inform me of what is going on with the case and they continue to make arrangements behind my back. Why are we as mothers never heard.

I know what he has and am not asking for more than he can pay, yet he submits figures to them and information that show he is not earning enough even to live himself and I get awarded £2.50 a week, my daughter has £3.50 a day from me and this also covers her dinner money.

No fear, I know this man will rot in hell. CSA is such a waste of time and I intend to take the matter further, I ain’t giving up. It’s been two years now and even though they awarded £2.50 a week, he still is not up to date and they had the cheek to write me a letter about over-payment, how do they get away with it. I know, as there is a god, he will rot in hell.


6 Responses to “Ex refuses to keep payments up to date”

  1. Terry norris on July 29th, 2011 11:41 am

    Ref to the mothers letter ” ex refuses to keep payments up to date”
    I sympathise with you regarding the useless idiots at the csa but do not agree with you when you say “why are we as mothers never heard” I think it’s quite the opposite ,the csa works more in favour to the mothers who have the kids than the fathers who don’t,and the shit system works in the mothers favour because they can exploit it’s uselessness to their advantage,I mean it seems a mother can tell the csa anything she wants and they believe her without question even going as far as telling them a man is the father of her child when he is not.even DNA test does not phase these idiots,they take the mothers word as god,now that really does fuck me off 100% how they can get away with it,and my own case where the bitch I married after 8 yrs then leaves me after 9 months married and walks taking my then 3 yr old daughter to live with a german.Call me old fashioned but I never walked away from my responsibilities as a father,I was relieved of them with the words ” you have nothing I want ” fine ok that’s cool,but not true because the bitch is still happy to take my money to fund hers and his lifestyle using my daughter as a tool to get it.Not all fathers deserve this shit from the csa,to be treated like criminals,I have £73 a week stolen from my pay for a child I never see and through no fault of mine.
    As I said before call me old fashioned but in my books if a man wants to take another mans wife and kid from him ,then he should fucking look after them lock stock and barrel,why should I be made to pay and be subsidising her new life with her lover.
    So don’t think it’s always the PWC ie the woman that gets the raw deal? It’s far from the truth .95 % of the time it’s the NRP ie the father that gets shit on by the csa because the skank mothers who exploit the system to their advantage by lying through their back teeth to bleed the fathers dry.The skank I married gets £320 a month from me yet the bitch won’t even let me have my daughters address to send her a birthday,and here’s the best part.she has another daughter that I brought up from the age of 18 months without ANY help from her father and she NEVER filed a claim against him with the csa even to this day.

  2. tom on July 31st, 2011 2:43 am

    Well written Terry, couldn’t agree more

  3. John on July 31st, 2011 3:46 pm

    There are always two sides to a story, but not according to the CSA and political puppets.

    All that NRP’s want is a fair deal, and not to be criminalised and treated like scum, by PWC’s and others!

  4. Michelle on July 31st, 2011 4:07 pm

    I am Michelle Main, Elgin,Scotland

    I have been battling against my ex for 8 years for him to pay his children, to-date i have recieved appox£1,800

    I phoned him today after a comment that he says he didnt say to his kid but

    quoting him he said “everyone knows what I am UP too.” Yes I am trying to support OUR kids and have tried to be nice and 8 years of neglect on their side, which has a devasting effect on me raising OUR kids.

    £1800/8 YEARS/365 DAYS/2 KIDS= 0.3082 perday that is less than half a penny per day,


    Its really time for the goverment to change the protocals its not worked.

    Name Shame them and Jail them for evasion payment and still make them PAY and neglect of their responibilties to their kids, sign my petition please to make a change

  5. John on August 3rd, 2011 8:55 am

    It is for both parents to provide for their children. We have 3 children. Two of whom are now adults and one has two years to go on this shambolic system.

    I have been on both sides of this mess. As a PWC and an NRP. It was one rule for me and different rules for the mother. My intransigent/adulteress ex, would not accept maintenance from me, she went to the CSA to punish me, because, she still thought she tell me what to do, and how to do it? it doesn’t work like that!

    She was allowed to fail to pay maintenance for 2 and half years, whilst I was supporting all three children because my lazy ex (who was told by the judge to get a job, because in his words “youv’e had it too good for too long”!) would not work. She continually uses the non resident (now adults) against me!

    The sytem is a shambles and not fit for purpose and the staff are incompetent beyond belief! Instead of criminalising and persecuting parents, Politicians should think again and used enforced mediation, with full financial background checks!

    I paid £77, 000 in divorce. I have paid £35,000 in maintenance. My ex has has two inheritances of £40,000 and £30,000, and yet she works and claims benefits!

    It is for parents to make financial provision for their children. NOT a Politician, NOT and Executive and NOT an incompetent Civil servant!

  6. karen bedford on November 9th, 2011 2:54 pm

    Please join the facebook groups child support agencies failings and others for support and advice as this is unfortunately common

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