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Ex pays me directly but never pays in full or on time
I split from my partner last February. We agreed a payment but he would only agree to pay in cash (£600). He brings the cash around to my house. He has paid it once on time since then. It is either late or he brings part of it. I can’t pay my rent and bills like this. He is becoming increasingly difficult and aggressive but tells me he earns 100K a year?
I don’t believe this. We have 2 children; age 3 and 4. He has access to the children on a Saturday and Wednesday. I don’t want the aggravation of him coming to my house.
I want a standing order. What can I do next?
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tell him you want the money paid via a standing order to your account to cover you and him if he disagrees you could go to CSA but it is always best to try and sort things amicably first. With regards to his aggressive behaviour you don’t have to put up with it make it clear to him that it isn’t acceptable behaviour and that if he wishes to play a part in his childrens lives he must stop being aggressive as it is no good for them or you. It may also be helpful if things are agreed via a solicitor regarding the access and the maintenance so you both know where you stand. Also keep records of any incidents that do occur if things do go pear shaped you may need this as proof etc. good luck and hope things work out for you all 🙂
Maybe your ex cant afford to pay so much, how about talk to him about his income then come to an arrangement about whats best for you both, you cant expect him not to come to your house, you have his children, he is there father, why so many women come on here moaning about the amount they get or don’t get is beyond me, be grateful your actually getting something, the csa push a wedge between parents and sometimes contact breaks down between father and children, maybe talk to one another cant be that hard
speak with your ex and explain that he is not paying on time or the agreed amount is causing problems with your budgeting and as such this may be having an affect on the welfare of your children. If you are unhappy with his behavior when at your house you can arrange an alternative for collection of the children – either at a family member’s house or a public place such as a local soft play center etc – your children should not have to witness aggression between their parents.
If your ex does not agree to setting up a standing order or continues to pay short of the agreed amount you can make an application via the CSA, they will assess him on his wages – if he fails to provide details of his income they can go direct to his employer for this, if he fails to pay by direct debit the agency can impose a Deduction of Earnings Order to collect your maintenance. There may be a delay in getting payments established whilst the initial assessment is being calculated .
There is a calculator on the CSA website that will show what your assessment would be – obviously you would need to know an accurate income figure for your ex, but if he is earning £100k per year he would be expected to pay £1668.33 per month – this is based on him having to pay for 2 children at 20% of his income. This figure would be reduced if he has any children living in his household for whom he is financially responsible for or if he has overnight care of your children for 52 nights or more a year.
@ wilf .. Lol lol why would the use of the word ‘out with’ indicate that Alice was Scottish?? 🙂
Sally:- Google the definition of “outwith”.
No offense alice, but we got told from CSA that payments from csa or nrp cannot be relied upon because they are not garunteed forms of income, so if the chap don’t want to pay the poster that’s his own choice, the csa seem to have different rules for different people, or at least that’s what it looks like, Im fed up of the bullshit you seem to spout on here, isn’t about time you helped all people instead of lying to the women on facebook telling them how to go about getting payments from there ex even if that means lying, you work for csa which I have been told by a manager up the top at Falkirk office that any member of staff deemed to be giving info that is biased or incorrect is a disciplinary offense, I have also sent him the link to the group you frequent, im sure government departments can get your ip address and the bollocks info and you lose your job, then see how much people struggle having no money, I have also sent the complaints department the post on here about the PWC following the nrp partners kids and you justifying it by saying info should be passed on, you make me sick, your out of order I hope to god you get found out and named and shamed, you deserve it
just because hes on 100k doesnt mean you are owed it. He should pay for his children and support them, but when a partnership splits, you lose rights to his wage packet that he earns.
As long as kids have clothes, food, warmth, few toys and lots of love, anything else is just materialism and lifestyle.
@lisa….in fulla agreement with what you said. I hope Alice (who the f… is alice) gets traced, and sacked, and given a taste of what its like to live on insults of income. Food…sorry alice, disposable income, one meal a day, or every other day. Heat….luxury, so either freeze or end up owing hundreds to energy companies. The advice the CSA dish out is beyond belief, extremely callous and disturbing.
http://www.facebook.com/groups/204256966364149/ @ Carol, feel free to join us on facebook, the above poster Amanda is a 2 bit tramp that’s always wingeing about something, she is always online must be the only thing she is good at being a keyboard warrior