Ex makes it hard to see my sone in case her CSA money drops

December 13, 2011

I have been dealing wih the csa for a few months now and it is already hell!!

My ex partner went to the csa becaus eshe thought they would get her more money than what i was giving her but she was wrong…

I now find it very hard to see my son as much as i want to because she is worried i will go to the csa and her money will drop. I informed the csa of this and they really do not care. They told me that they would have informed hannah that the less i see my son the more money she will get but they do nothing if it is clear that its only for financial gain. They told me to keep a diary for proof of how often i have my son which i have been doing…

Already i have ad my son a substancial amount of time more than what they have down, i did tell them this before it all started but they just took the word of the mother. I then called them to let them know of my change of address and told then of the extra time i have been seeing tyler and to my shock they told me to keep quiet about it because it will cost ME more! I wrote a letter to my MP who contacted the csa and they then called me regarding my issues. I spoke to a man who was….. moronic to say the least and told me that it was a mistake and i will actually pay 9 pounds less…

I asked him not to call my ex because she will stop me seeing my son the extra night because she will not be happy about the change in money and asked him if they did call her and she said that, it would be obvious its only for financial gain and asked what they would do about it and he just said its not his problem! i see it as the csa have given her the option to get more money by stopping me see my son! he then asked why i wrote a letter to my MP “is it because i want to change the government” is what he said.. How rediculous is that??!!

He then informed me that the csa are THE government to which i corrected him and told him the csa are public sector, that does not mean they are the government. He also told me keeping a diary is not evidence of how long i have my son even though they told me previously it was sufficient.

The csa are supposed to support families to come to an agreement of how much and how to pay child maintenance but all they have done it treat me like idiot and helped my ex get as much money as she can…

Comments

  • janet says:

    The csa are a member of dwp hunny!

  • chris kay says:

    i know thats the department for work and pensions but whats that go tot do with it?

  • janet says:

    They are part of the goverment lol and surely 9 pounds a week drop isn’t worth riskin contact with your child

  • chris kay says:

    i understand they are part of the government but to say they are the goverment to make me back down from my problem is not right! If you read what i have said, i said i told them not to contact my ex because the change in money would stop me seeing my son…….. so im happy to pay the money and keep it how it is….
    My problem is not money its the fact that they make money an issue and how often i see my son changes that issue when it should have nothing to do with it. They should premote parents sorting the problem out themselves and coming to an agreement rather than giving the person with custody whatever they want because they can. They can see its for financial gain but they dont care, thats the issue……..

  • chris kay says:

    also this is off the dwp website on child maintenance

    Where parents live apart, child maintenance is the regular financial support paid by the parent who is not living with the children to the parent who is the main day to day carer.

    The Government believes that families themselves are best placed to determine what arrangements will work best for them. Evidence suggests that this is better for the children affected.

    The Government wants to encourage and support parents to:

    * fulfil their responsibilities as parents by continuing their involvement in their children’s lives and through paying child maintenance
    * make family-based arrangements wherever possible rather than relying on government services to step in and administer arrangements

    This is not what the csa do, al they do is ask the career what nights the secondary career has the child then works it out and takes the money. No ecouragement to sort the problem out between them…… Thats the issue

  • janet says:

    That is not quoted for csa it is for the child maintenance options if you read it lol

  • chris kay says:

    lol??

    It clearly states The Government believes that families themselves are best placed to determine what arrangements will work best for them. Evidence suggests that this is better for the children affected.

    The Government wants to encourage and support parents to:

    * fulfil their responsibilities as parents by continuing their involvement in their children’s lives and through paying child maintenance
    * make family-based arrangements wherever possible rather than relying on government services to step in and administer arrangements

    Its not quoted for the CSA but if that is what the government want to do, why are they not doing it??

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