Ex lying about csa arrears

July 20, 2011

I am in desperate need of some advice please…

I separated from my ex wife in 2004 and have been making regular payment for child maintainance for an amount agreed between us. she has now contacted the csa and said she has not received a penny between 2004 and 2009 and i have now received an arrear bill for almost £9000. My dilema is that the payments were not always made through a standing order(cash was paid directly into her account each month)and they say i must prove that the payments were made..I do not have all recepits, infact i have only a few (stupdity on my part I know)I now have to try adn contact my bank and get every single statement from 2004 to try and prove i have been paying.

Csa have said there is nothing else i can do and even if the cash payment to her bank were proven, it must state that the money was for child maintainance..how can someone jus lie about this with no repercussions for them, i can hopefully provide as much proof as i can but there will be no come back on her for lying!!?? surely this is fraud? I have spoken to her and she admits to lying but says she doesnt care as i must prove it..Also even tho she is the parent with care, she is puttin our daughter into boarding school in scotland and moving to germany, her parents will be caring for our daughter at weekends..how would this affect csa payments? I have always paid and will continue to provide for my child but it is unreasonable and unfair that i should have to pay TWICE!!!!! any advice would be gratefully received.


2 Responses to “Ex lying about csa arrears”

  1. matt on July 21st, 2011 5:59 pm

    I’m in the exact same boat! my ex has informed the CSA (in 2008) that I hadn’t paid any child support since 1999. In this time I had been in 2 serious relationships (1 marriage) where I have been living with someone & sharing finances. These people had witnessed payments when picking up or dropping off the children but STILL the CSA would only take her side. My bill is for £21500 & unless I can show a paper trail of money being transferred, they will continue to deduct 40% of my wages to cover regular payments plus ‘arrears’!!
    Keep fighting, speak to your local MP (I am in that process now) and try (somehow) to remain sane. Yes the system is stacked against non residents but someday, someone HAS to see it from the other side of the fence.
    Good luck,

    Matt H

  2. Terry Roberts on July 24th, 2011 12:51 am

    In booth cases i cannot understand how they can backdate it so far. Looking at there own booklets and from what they have told me themselves they have certain rules.
    Once the RP contacts them they have to contact the NRP. Once they have made the contact they can then start to charge from that date. To get around part of this they just claim to have sent a letter out even when they havnt so count that as contact. They can not backdate to before they were first contacted by the RP.

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