Ex limits my contact to get more money from CSA

October 18, 2012

Unhappy Christmas greetings from CSA and my ex

My young son is really upset because he wants to stay over at our house but his mum, my ex wife, won’t allow it. She’s threatened police action because we allowed my son to stay over last weekend against her wishes.

It’s clear she is limiting contact purely to get more money via the CSA, and ignoring my son’s needs.

The regular payments will increase by £33 a month – significant as I have a disabled wife and young baby to support.

But as usual, CSA’s complicated system have generated some arrears!

They have kindly given me a choice. Either £116 extra in December then £33 extra pcm Jan onwards, or slightly less in November but £75 pcm extra from December, £45 extra in March and £33 extra April onwards

Either way, unless we experience a miracle, any chance of affording a decent Christmas and 2013 (or even meeting the basic needs) for my family, have been ruined by a greedy ex wife and an unsympathetic CSA.

Comments

  • martin says:

    goto the court ask for a c100 form this is for a applcation for access which you can do yourself
    by law you are entiled every other weekend law ,which is soon change next year to 50 ) 50

    put in you applaction and state your case you should be able to get a court order for access which you both must follow to the letter

    DONT NO RISE TO ANY AGRUMENTS JUST WALK AWAY AND SAY NOTHING DO NOT GIVE HER AMMO TO USE

  • Alice says:

    check that you are getting the correct allowance on your maintenance in respect of your baby – also ask the csa to consider the arrears collection – the debt steer is that the full arrears are to be paid over a maximum of 2 years. Advise the csa that your wife is disabled and ask them to take this into consideration when they negotiated the arrears collection – you will need to be open and honest about the nature of her disability and any additional costs incurred due to her disability, they have no legal obligation to take this into account and if your wife is in receipt of benefits such as DLA, incapacity benefit or carers allowance it may be deemed that there is funding there to cover the additional costs incurred by your wife’s disability – her benefits would not be used in the income used to calculate your assessment.

    With regards to the access issue you should persue this through the courts – sadly a lot of parents with care do restrict overnight access in order to reduce or stop shared care allowances

  • William says:

    I have had the same problem.

    I only get 4 overnights per 28-day cycle, yet spend nearly 50/50 time (and money) with the kids. Of course, the CSA don’t recognise this due to their retarded rules (what MPs came up with this crap? – should be shot, in the knee caps)

    Getting any extra overnights is like I’ve just eaten her guinea pig…and will involve another court battle (having had 6 already, I don’t fancy any more in the prejudiced, anti-father environment of the ‘family’ courts, where Dads are generally 3rd-rate citizens).

    Sucks to be a Dad….

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