Ex is cheating the system
In nov 2010 my ex had another child with his new partner.They waited until march ’11 to go through the csa for this child which resulted in my payment being cut from £570 per month to £419.. for 3 children.. and he owns 5 houses!!.. I reported them immediately for what i consider to be a fraudulent claim, as even though they both have their own property they are very much ‘together’ in a relationship and alternate nights at each others houses.. I thought csa only dealt with SEPARATED parents.
After writing to them and making too many phone calls to remember, they came back with ‘unless they tell us they’re together there’s nothing we can do’.. this is getting really frustrating now as they even pick up/drop off my children together. Sick of having my nose rubbed in it tbh.. anybody know where i go from here??? Do i really just have to sit back and take this?? My children are actually going without things now because that is a huge chunk to lose.
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If you get 419 a month from him, that would assume your half of the bills for food and clothes is 419. Meaning you spend 838 a month on food and clothes for your kids? Do you? Or are you just after a slice of his money rather than actually after what it takes to care for your children adequately. I’m guessing the former.
Could not of said it better my self
£419 is a reasonable amount!! Seems to me that your just after the money, and I wounder if you are out working as well to ensure your doing all you can to provide for your children and not just wanting the father to pay for everything.
Plus the cb for 3 kids and potentially tax credits etc and it sounds like he has them also on top, must be living like a queen. It’s about time there’s a set amount per child per week minus overnight stays cos £419 a month is a ridiculous amount to ‘contribute’ towards the children’s upbringing, It makes no odds what he earns or how many houses he has a child costs what a child costs!
I fail to see what their relationship status has to do with your claim?
His payments have reduced because he is responsible for another child, not because he’s single?
Maybe if you were so fucking greedy this wouldn’t be an issue. The amount of houses he owns has NOTHING to do with you, he pays you over £400 a month, that is plenty.
That’s bout 136 per child which ain’t bad. His new partners info nowt to do wi his case either. Sounds like £signs
Sounds like a bit of jelousy to me
That’s brilliant won’t you get even for three kids most people get less than that so your very lucky
Just be thankful he’s not on the dole, you’d only get £20 per child per month
Take your head for a wobble love! At least your getting something! Jesus what more do you want!!!!
He is paying towards his children’s upbringing & he is still apart of their lives….wow it’s a shame more absent dads can’t be more like him x
I get nothing for my child so count yourself lucky
I got the same answers as you did and I have had nothing from him, and all back debts have been wiped as he doesn’t want to fill any forms in, so be glad of the money you get. X
Same Liz just a waste of air xx
Sounds to me money money money and no intrest if he sees his kids maybe defonout to spounge him dry
Defo waste of space they are xx
Well my ex is claiming Csa off me. And her child benefit plus child tax credits for my daughter who’s not even with her but living at her cousins.. Still reported to csa and child tax credits and Fk all done. Surely this is fraud.
what a load of money grabbing filth!!
sorry I hate commenting but you are a greedy money grabbing peice of work!! if he is committing ‘fraud’ in order to pay less then I owe him a pint or two, good for him! what do you buy for your kids that costs DOUBLE £419? can you answer us that? what is it you spend over £800 on per month to benefit your kids…not you, your kids! sounds to me like you want your ex to fund a lifestyle for yourself. if your kids are going without despite him paying £419 per month then you need to sort out your priorities and stop spending so much on yourself!
Ppl like you make me sick.
This is why so many children bloody go without any support at all the CSA wasting time on shit like this when clearly over £400 is enough ! Are they not picking the kids up together so that they can spend time with and have a relationship with their half brother/sister ? He sounds quite involved in their lives – lucky kids some don’t have that luxury !
Wish I got that much for my 3 kids from they dad think yourself lucky
Jesus wept! £400 not enough! That’s an extra £100 a week on top of whatever child benefits she gets is she mad! Wants to think herself lucky not only is he paying for his kids he’s Also involved! Kids aren’t cash cows!
some people are never happy it seems
It doesn’t matter whether he is in a relationship or not… the key point is that he’s had another child and therefor has to provide!!! Seeing that fathers get screwed over enough by ex partners and csa I don’t think your loosing out its just the lifestyle you would like can’t be maintained. See us fathers know this because we pay child maintenance but still have to buy things they need as the money seems to be spent elsewhere… funny thing that!!
Em, of course it makes a difference what he makes and how many houses he has. It’s a know fact that if they were together he would put that amount into his kids. At the end of the day, if someone is well off, they spend more on their kids than if they are on benefits, why just because the marriage failed, should the children get less from either parent than if they were together?
Think yourself lucky. I have 3 kids and get nothing of my ex partner despite me and my partner paying over £200 per month csa for a child we have every single day, whi has her own room, own toys, clothes, we pay for horseriding every week and go halves with parties, school uniform, trips etc!! I would be more than happy with no money and a caring father who is willing to contribute.
Money grabbers is exactly what is wrong with this system. It should only be for the dead beat fathers anyway.
Deary dear, you just sound bitter cos you want more of his money and the fact he has counter claimed for a child he now has with somebody else to reduce his payments has pissed you off. If you cannot provide for your kids on 419 quid then whatever you get, there is something very wrong so stop moaning and allow him a life after you with his kids and new family. There are women out there who’s exes refuse to pay and jump in and out of jobs. At least you get a fair sized monthly payment.
There’s no reason the children should get less and nothing says they will. My kids get what ever they need without fail and a holiday every year, I will never see them go without and they come above everything. What I won’t do is handover a load of my hard earned cash to my ex on the slight outside chance she might spend it on them and not herself.
Assuming you contribute at least as much as your ex what on earth are they going without with £838 a month to spend on them or are you just bitter, greedy and grasping?
Totally agree Gregory – like most parents you rightly choose to spend your hard earned money as you wish and ensure it benefits your children. Children are not and should never be a meal ticket for a lazy, greedy parent.
Jeez some people. …count yourself lucky! !!!! Some people get alot less or nothing at all!!!!!