Ex has suddenly become unreasonable about my access
I don’t know if I have come through to the right thing but I am after some advice that I am concerned about the way my ex wife treats me and how it effects the children.
Since we split in 2010 she has called the police on me in front of our children as I wanted to use the toilet in the house after dropping the children off, which is a 6-7 hour round trip. She dictated an arrangement with me when I can speak to the children and countless times she has been unavailable for me to speak to them. I pay my CSA payments on time and have never defaulted. The latest incident tonight out of the blue she said that she will change her mobile number if I text her to ask where she is so that I can speak to the children at the arranged time.
This is completely unexpected and I am not sure what I can do about this, and this is also particularly unexpected as she said to me that she wanted to keep things amicable. What can I do about this?
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She has the power over you where your kids are concerned, best thing get to a solicitor soon, they have plenty of free ones should you be on a low income, now the csa will be on your back claiming you owe cash that you have probably already paid,
Oh great…another stupid, selfish, emotionally immature PWC using the children to dig the knife in and hurt the ex partner.
So you back off and dont take the bait, and next thing you know….”Hello, Congratulations, youre our newest pay ticket… We are the CSA….”
I am sorry your children are losing out on their father thanks to this stupid woman. No matter how hurt you are by your ex, you grow up and keep feelings out of it when it comes to the children. If need be, if you really cant face an ex, you get the the pick up arranged at grannies…ffs….how simple never gets through…..
hurry though if you intend to seek legal action as applications for legal aid are stopped for family law the end of this month….
Nature of the beast! My ex is so unreasonable when I try to ask to see the kids outside of our schedule! She has been like that since the CSA reduced my payment to her as I earned less. Blames ME for cutting her money even though the CSA were the ones who set the rate. So she uses access to the kids as a weapon. And complains to me several times a month about me wanting to see the kids.
In the end I just try to bite my tongue! I still get them every other weekend and wednesdays for dinner. Although I found out she is taking them to france next year for hols and I wont see them for the month of Aug. I do have some tiny fears she may try to live there. her parents live out there.
It’s about time the law changed and gave the paying parent proper rights that are taken seriously to reasonable access and stop the bullying and harassment we experience from the ex over kids. it is low, petty and not healthy for the children. Kids need parents!