Ex has contacted CSA purely as act of revenge

October 17, 2011

I am a woman who’s son lives with his father. My son had to live with his dad when i got into debt and rather move away from his dad, we both decided that it would be in his best interests he lived with his dad. This was the hardest thing i have ever done in my entire life. When my son was living with me, my ex never gave me any maintenance for him and this also contributed to my debt, but i still had an amicable relationship with his dad. I got a job and started paying maintenance to my ex (who was jobless) by cash as agreed by the CSA. I never kept any records of this as this was never mentioned by the CSA at the time. My son was 6 when he went to live with his dad and he is 15 now.

In July of this year the amicable relationship with my ex broke apart and he stopped me having any contact with my son so i stopped paying the maintenance. Within months i received a letter from the CSA stating that i had to pay arrears back to the date he went to live with my ex! My ex had lied and told them i hadn’t paid a penny and the worse thing was i couldn’t prove it. They then took 40% of my wages which left me with nothing to live on or even pay my bills. I have been to see CAB who have tried to appeal this but with no avail. The CSA have even lost their letters to appeal! My ex has been harassing me and my new husband (my ex even went to our wedding) with racist slures and hatred texts and has eventually made me ill. Does the CSA realise what they are doing to peoples lives?

I have never denied my son anything. It’s hard enough that i don’t have my son with me and has been all this time. I feel i am fighting a losing battle and that there is no one their to help me. My last attempt at recifying this is to see my MP. My ex has only done this for revenge and not for the best interests of my son. He admitted to me via a phone call that his working tax credit had been stopped and that is why he called the CSA.

There is no justice in this shit hole of a country.

Comments

  • Karl Garrett says:

    welcome to the world of being a bloke….

  • KMcQ80 says:

    Strange how the media never pick up on these revenge stories….

  • Mick says:

    My story isnt too disimilar to yours. An ex with custody/care of a child has the right to play god over the NRP with the connivance of the state and the CSA. They hide behind what they say is putting the child first. When an ex lies and cuts you off out of spite. Its very hard to prove in a court of law because what they would construe as hearsay, you know to be fact. Only a NRP knows what lengths an ex would go to out of pure spite. Pity the government and the CSA havent been given that wake up call yet. Cameron bangs on about trying to fix broken Britain. He could make a good start with the CSA and making sure child access laws are enforced against any PWC that chooses to ignore an access agreement when it suits them with sanctions. i.e stop ther payments, or in worse case scenario prison. We all know no judge will do that. What makes it even harder is ther PWC is usually not working so entitled to free legal aid. The NRP who is working most likely doesnt have a bottomless pit of cash to waste on solicitors and courts.

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