Ex cancels contact so she can get more money via CSA
My ex went to the CSA who then contacted me and my employer. All the details they asked for were dutifully given. Despite having my daughter every other weekend throughout 2010, 12 days at Christmas etc my ex insisted I wasn’t seeing her at all! It was up to me to prove I had been seeing my daughter on the dates I claimed. Which I did by ringing dates on a calendar and faxing that???!!! (Really good proof).
The CSA came to a figure (virtually the same figure that I was already paying her voluntarily) and I have since paid her directly via direct debit. Me ex however was not so happy and so cancelled her claim the second she heard what the result was. At which point I asked if the claim could be kept going because she was bound to re apply very soon.
Less than a fortnight later I receive another call from the CSA claiming identical details already give. My ex has since refused to let me see my daughter. Now the CSA are telling me I have to pay more money because I am not accommodating our daughter any more!
Even the CSA contact I spoke to agrees this is totally unfair, “however our hands are tied”. How can this possibly be correct, it actually rewards mothers for stopping their kids from seeing good fathers.
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Yes it is correct. The more contact is restricted by the mother the more she is rewarded with increased CM.
It’s because the government doesn’t care about childrens relationships with their father. Crazy country huh …..
The law need changing and the only way to achieve that is to harass your MP.
Absolutely disgusting…how can this “mother” see this as acting in the best interests of the child.
I really hope you are able to keep a relationship with your daughter, the law regarding this needs to be changed.
Absolutely ridiculous! I don’t understand how a Mother can do this to her own children, how does she explain that to your daughter???
I’m on the other side of the spectrum, my kids go to their Dad every week (unless he cancels or they have something on) but doesn’t pay a penny maintenance, yes I would love to get some extra help to pay for the essentials, but I’d never cancel contact to wring money out of him, how is that beneficial to your daughter, particularly when you were supporting her financially already!!! It’s money grabbing ex’s like that that are making a mockery of the CSA.
On another note, I’ve heard ‘our hands are tied’ more times than I can remember, it seems the CSA use that as a last resort line to shut us up!
Your not on your own. I see 1 daughter once a fortnight and another daughter who is 2 Yrs old I’ve only seen once. This is not out of choice but by the PWC and whats also frustrating is that she told me that her solicitor encouraged her to do this. CSA are terrible but the solicitors out there are just as bad. I pay top maintenance because I’m told by CSA that I do not have any involvement with my children !!
Lets face it, we can blame the PWC all we want but if there are laws in this country to allow one parent to do this then they will. Shame on this country and everyone needs to protest to their MP’s, press – anything that re-addresses the injustice and worst kind of political correctness
Sex offenders are being awarded more rights under the human rights act than NRP’s get afforded right now and its disgraceful. I’m now off to see if I can eat for the next 7 days and work out if I have enough petrol money to get to see my daughter this weekend who now resides 25 miles away