Evil ex got the kids just to take money from CSA

My husband broke up with his kids mother in 1998 when they were 5 and 18 monthes. she refused to claim child support as she thought it would reduce the amount of benefits she could live off. When i got with him she threw a sh*t fit about money and my now husband gave her 100 a month out of his 750 a month wages. After a few monthes the oldest son moved in with us full time so my husband stopped paying as they now had a child each and his logic was if he had to pay her support she should pay him. After about a year and a half she went to the csa and they calculated he should pay 300 a month as his wages went up to about 1600 a month.

She had to pay nothing, but we dident actually make any payments as we were in the process of fighting for custody of the younger son. the csa said they would wait untill we knew what was happening before persuing it further.

After a year and a half we still hadent got custody as the case was long and drawn out but the csa wrote to us saying we owed over 7k in backpayments! We arranged to pay that off at 25 a month and start paying the 300 a month. Only one payment was taken then we won custody of the younger son so with both sons we stopped the direct debit and it all semed to go away. we even tried to get support off the mother but becuase she is incapable of holding a job or doing anything productive other than trying to ruin our lives she paid nothing.

Fast forward a year and all we ever received off her was continued returns to court to try and get both kids back off us, throwing vile accusations of abuse and allsort of poisonous lies I eventually fell pregnant with my son. When my son was 8 monthes old she got her 2 sons to lie to the police and tell them my husband was violent and abusive so they would go and live with her.

As soon as she had the residence order granted she was gone in a cloud of dust 200 miles away to where her nasty mother lives.

Note that all the years of fighting in court forced us into crippling debt, lost a house and caused me so much stress during my pregnancy and first year of my sons life I wanted to end it all. anyway in the end we dident fight custody because we had lost all the fight after so much, and the 2 sons had truly turned against us. My husbands life was ruined and he had a breakdown. somehow we got through it…

Fast forward 6 years and we dident hear from the csa in all that time. we assumed she wouldnt destroy our lives and financially cripple us at the same time. the oldest sone left school and became a complete dropout with no prospects, the younger one is now 14 and smokes and is an overweight slob who has no respect for anything. my husband managed to rebuild a relationship with his sons but it was hard, and eventually the older one moved back (and kept going home to his mum when we expected him to do anything with his life). then out of the blue we received a call from the csa in june saying the mother has made a claim for child support.

So you can imagine how absolutely enraged we are at having to give this evil succubus a penny after all she has done to us. weve lost a house, got in debt, had our lifes ruined and my husband could have gone to jail for “assualting” his son (the bruise the kids blamed on my husband was done by a kid at school, he forgot he told me hed had a fight at school before the supposed assault from my husband took place). My husband now is expected to line the pockets of this twisted evil scumbag when shes got custody of his kids by lying to the police (the older kids admitted it to my husband recently that he lied) and just did everything that is immorale just to get what she wanted. 330 a month we are now having to pay, despite us having a 6 year old boy who is autistic.

We recently had a letter from the csa asking us exactly when the kids left our care, so now we are anticiapting a huge backdated bill on top of it all.

My anger is at the evil mother who I couldnt care if she fell off a cliff, but my anger is also at the csa for being blind to all the bad in this case and simply acting as puppets from her to further ruin our lives. I wish there was still a ruke about benfit scroungers having to surrender their child support, then she wouldnt be living the high life on our money that my husband works damn hard for while she sits on her scrawny saggy arse all day and chain smokes